Hey guys whats up.

I haven't been on here in long time due simply to the fact that i've been dating this girl for about three months now and lately I have been getting this feeling that she did something that would break up the relationship more and more frequently. Now I've always just shrugged it off but now its getting worse. Also yesterday i was on my way home from work and had that feeling again then when we went out for dinner last night she said the we should slow it down. Now I don't know if this is cause for worry because for me it always ended with a break up. Now the reason used for it was that we are taking things too fast and talking about marriage and stuff when she was the one who would always initiate it now its all been good because we have had no problem talking about it before until last night when she came home from her friends(female) place.

So what are all your thoughts on this

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My thoughts are that you are becoming increasingly needy!

She was the one initiating "the future" conversations, but has subsided, so now the tables have turned, and YOU are seeking validation from HER!

Not good.

Neediness
Do you know why women like the “bad guys”? Because they are the opposite of being needy. They don’t care about the girl. They might not answer her phone calls. They might come 50 minutes late for a date.
If you think about it for a second, how can a man be completely in love with a woman that you've just known for 3 months? And even though you dated and screwed her quite a few times, you hardly even know her.
That’s exactly what women think about needy men. “He doesn't even know me… Why does he call me so much? He must be some loser”.

Calling a girl again and again, leaving her messages, sending flowers, telling her that they can’t sleep without seeing her. This is completely insane! But many men still do this.

Showing neediness only makes women like you less. So if a girl starts losing interest in you, behaving needy is not the solution.


The reason why girls hate guys that are needy is because girls are attracted to MEN. Being needy is a characteristic of a child not a man. A Guy who acts like a child (needy) “is asking" a girl to treat you like a mother and girls hate that.

Women want a man that can lead them into wonderful experiences. Women want a man that can make them feel beautiful, sexy, fun, safe, excitement, desire, attraction, all at the same time, regardless of age, income, or looks. A woman has to surrender to you in order for these things to happen. How do you expect her to do this if you are the one acting needy?

How do you make her feel all these amazing emotions if you're the needy one? A real man has to be a leader. Then women will follow you.

When YOU are a leader then the needy ones will come to you. So when a woman needs love and intimacy she will not only like and want you, she will have to stand in a long line.
Women want a strong man who is confident and independent.


Because being needy is emotionally draining and all consuming. Everyone needs alone time.

For the same reason why guys don’t like girls that are too needy... why would you want to emotionally take care of a grown person who is completely capable of taking care of them?

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Nice work Heywood. Great job of explaining WHY acting needy is a turn off.

I've learned that what Heywood says is correct, but I'd ad that what women in a relationship want is not to be NEEDED, but they do want to be WANTED.

That means they want to hear that you WANT them to be yours, you WANT them to feed you, fuck you, love you. But that you don't NEED them to do that. Knowing they are wanted makes them feel loved, appreciated, all the warm fuzzy shit. But when they don't meet your every desire in 2 seconds, you need to be able to prove that you do just WANT them, and that you don't NEED them.

When tests like that come up, I guarantee that if you communicate your wants, and they resist, if you hold strong and prove that you don't need what you've indicated you want from them, you'll get it from them in the end with tons more enthusiasm.