Firstly, I am not here for quick lays, but a long and serious relationship.

I met a girl online, we talked over SPAM, and SPAM a few times. She is studying medicine and lives in another country (Holland). - We have a strong foundation due to having the same religious beliefs. That is what brought us together, also i have some mutual friends who know her and that helped too.

At first she showed a lot of interest, and it did go down slightly. She will disappear midway conversation and not reply until I Say hi a day later.. (She is a medical student, and works a lot.. so she is very busy. It is not an excuse as it does show on SPAM when a person is online . But obviously if you are really interested in a person you would reply quicker. However, because we have never met, maybe it is normal to be like this after a week or so). I spoke to her yesterday and we agreed to meet up next week, I took out 5 days.

This will be our first date. How should I try and take the five days? She will probably want to see me every day. I am thinking to be confident myself, be fun and interesting, and just keep escalating. - But, I see there is a lack of challenge, there is going to be less mystery..

I know its not the most perfect scenario. There are not so many amazing, attractive and smart girls who also share my religious beliefs, in my part of the UK. The latter part is a deal breaker, and i am looking for a long term relationship.

I hope someone here is able to help advise.

This doesn't belong in the Relationships forum, you've never met this girl.

5 days is very very heavy for a first date, i'm very surprised she agreed to this. Slow down, you might not even like this girl in the flesh.

Sorry although I did read the rules, I didn't realise, because I thought this would be Ok on number 3.

I guess your circumstances are different because you can't exactly have a relationship with this girl unless she moves to your country or you move to Holland.

My advice: Go on the trip, fuck her brains out then if she wants to pursue it, make it clear she needs to come and see you. Remember: A girl cannot fall in love with a guy unless he fucks her brains out first.

If it doesn't work out that way, find a girl in your own country, there are millions of women in your own country looking for a boyfriend.