I just accidentally got to know that my girlfriend of 4 months has been texting constantly with her old fuck buddy during my relationship with her. I thought he was just a friend, but now she admitted him being the one she slept with (once according to her) before we started to date seriously. She has not said him she has a boyfriend! Why would someone keep texting to a girl he has slept with 6 months ago if he wasn´t getting more or at least believing to get some? My GF says they mutually agreed to stay friends. When we talked about this guy long time ago, she said she was hoping more from him, but he just dropped all contact. These stories don´t match and why would they still keep texting?

She likes me a lot as i like her. We just had an amazing weekend together and I introduced her to my whole family. I am heart-broken, but she lacks respect and plays with two guys. This other guy is a handsome athlete and no doubt has more sexual value than I have. I give her orgasms, but I am more of a provider compared to this younger guy even though she has never been after my money and she has been the one chasing me. But I won´t waste my time in a game I can´t eventually win. My question to you is, what would be the best/most alpha way to confront her and break up with her? I think I´ll just ask a simple question: "the only way you can save something here is to be 100% truthful: have you cheated on me?" I´ll dump her anyway, but I really wanna know the ugly details behind all this. I have had a gut feeling for some time and this is another story that proves your gut is the one you´ll always listen to!

Your "gut" is correct.

But I gotta ask? Why the fuck do you need to know "all the ugly details"?

They are pretty much slapping you in the face!

Or do you want to know how it felt for her while he was ass pounding her? That's not going to make you feel any better at all!

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I would agree that your gut is usually right on these thing but damn read what you wrote:

You sound like a major AFC and hold no value for youself what so ever.

Because I wanna know if she really fucked him or just gave him hope. He is in army now and she´s been with me almost all the possible cheating days. I still care about her and it would make my feelings die much faster if she actually fucked him when she was with me. Anyway, it doesn´t change the fact we are done.

Does it make me AFC if I only realistically admit to myself that some day my girl would cheat me anyway with some guy, if not with this one? My GF has shown what kind of girl she is. This kind of girls seek validation not only from their boyfriends. I am in a good shape as well, but this guy is a champion in what he does. I think it is a major Alpha move to dump this type of girl. I am the prize. Alphas don´t compete, they conquer. I conquered this bitch, she is mine, but she does not deserve me. How is that AFC? I can´t "win" her eventually, because of the fact she is an attention whore. AFC would keep competing.

My "gut" tells me you would like to see her squirm a little before she gets shit canned? I get it.

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I had the talk with her. She swore she hasn´t cheated on me. She only politely replied to his messages. Unfortunately she had deleted all of them so I can´t be sure. She seems to be very desperate and she wants to continue with me and she has no other options. She is with me for long-term. She actually might be telling the truth.

I told her I want to break-up and she became ultra mad. She screamed and shouted "this is so stupid reason to break-up, you are just giving up!" I actually felt that I might be doing a big mistake. I couldn´t keep my frame as I showed some emotion and admitted how much she means to me. I let her know my feelings are not the reason for breaking up. Lack of trust is. Am I being too judgemental and paranoid? Should I give her another chance, because I dont´have any hard evidence of cheating? She only texted and girls always have orbiters.

I finally told her I listened to what she had to say and now I don´t feel 100% sure about the break-up. She asked me to contact her when I have made a decision. She doesn´t want to suffer and wait for very long. I think it was necessary to show her I am able to walk away. She should not take me for granted after this. I should now see how much she wants me back, but the problem is that I am now supposed to be the one who initiates the next contact. I even slipped I might call tomorrow. So she expects some answer soon. Should I give her chance of building trust or should I just run? And should I call her tomorrow already if I have made up my mind by then? Will she respect me if I cancel the break-up being indecisive? How can I make her chase me if I am the one who calls next?

It depends on you man and what you want to do. Personally me I would walk away (deleting texts and not telling someone she fucked that she's in a relationship) if your already worried about her cheating now what happens 6 months down the road?

Hey buddy, my situation is very similar to yours. Feel free to read my thread, 23 comments and they have helped me a lot. her-ex-still-in-the-picture-how-to-deal ... 63835.html

With your situation I would make a decision and stick with it. Either you really dont trust her (your gut u said) or you are able to move past this and continue (make a clean break from feeling insecure about the other guy). Its either 1 or the other. If you will always have this "lingering" feeling she may be going behind your back... DROP her NOW. BC itll always be there and girls HATE guys who are insecure with THEMSELVES. And you will always be doubting... scared... ect. Dont live like that. You deserve better.

The evidence in my situation and yours is pretty harmless IMO. If you knew for sure they were seeing each other like every day and hanging out 1 on 1 every day your not... then id drop her. But if she says they just talk then its whatever... he may be a big jock athlete... but hes a fucking tool probably.. doesnt understand game like you do and ultimately you will win her by UNDERSTANDING what is ATTRACTIVE to girls.

You sound young and so does she... so you should have 5-6 girls your "orbiting" as well incase this main chick fades. THIS ISNT CHEATING on your part or hers... you just havnt even come close to developing a SOLID relationship with each other...."Yet". Until then (it takes time...) go out and meet new bitches 2... and what ull see happen is it wont bother you if she hangs out or talks to other guys.... BC ull be gaming and owning other girls.... which will DRIVE HER to BEG for YOUR attention. Thats how you win this game sir. SOCIAL PROOF.

Take this as a LEARNING experience. You have oneitis a little bit, but thats ok. Better YOURSELF and the results around you will manifest. Dont try and change her or the situation.... but change YOU!

GL
DUKE

Thanks for the advice. I decided to continue with her. She wants to respect my boundaries so it´s fair to let her show it. I agree with you about the social proof. When we weren´t dating exclusively yet, I tried to pick up one of her best friends. She didn´t know who I was and neither did I know she was her friend. (I wasn´t interested in her so I didn´t take her number or anything.) Soon my GF found out about this. She had identified me from her friend´s description. She was also told I was "a very hot guy." Naturally she made a huge scene. She accused me of being a player and she had/faked a panic attack. ...I gave her a ride home and thought she was going to give me more blaming, but all she did give me that night was a BJ (the first) without a request...

Ride = B/J it's prerequisite. Just sayin

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