It's been a while since I've aksed for advice, let alone posted on these forums. I've been quite busy with my studies and my girlfriend. Now there are just all kinds of shit and I think I'm not handling this practically badly but I feel I could do a lot more for her. We've been together with this girl for about 7 months, and she means quite a lot to me. She's always honest and trustworthy and I can always count on her. After my previous two fucked up relationships and all the worthless SNLs which satisfied nothing but my cock, I finally have a normal one.

Everything had begun a few montsh ago.

She decided she'd skip a semester at the uni because she doesn't have enough money, so she would have worked at a hospital. It was quite a good plan and I was absolutely supporting it. She seemed to have a rock solid post there, since she'd worked there before and knew a lot of people from our summer practise(we both study at the medical faculty of our uni)

Unfortunately her parents didn't like this idea so much and they thought that she was doing this because of me so we could finish the uni at the same time(she used to be a year ahead of me before this), and spend more time together during the summer. Well, that's what her mother told her but this is highly irrational and I highly doubt that this is the case. I'd rather think that her mother is much alike her and she likes to take responsibility for everything, and simply doesn't like the fact that they can't pay for her daughter's uni alone.

Meanwhile her portable HDD died. There was TONS of data on it which haven't been saved anywhere else. Meaning some of her writings, her friends' writings, photos and memories. The service said they couldn't save it.

After this little incident cooled down a few days ago came the real crach. The hospital she was about to work at was given back to the City Council. And this resulted in her not getting the job. Also, there has been some trouble with her grandmother's CBC and so she has to go to hospital for a week. And then there's his grandfather who's also ill, and normally her grandma looks after him. Now he'd be alone, they really don't want to put him in a nursing home, so at first they've decided that my girlfriend would have to go and look after him in the following next weeks. She's finished with the finals so she's not too occupied. Now there are a few concerns here... One problem is that she needs to find a job, and needs to start working the following week. Meaning we will be in a mid-distance relationship for 8 months(summer and next semester). We would be able to meet easily at times she's not working, but still, I myself am not the rich guy either, so I'd say a maximum of once/twice a week. The other problem is that if she's left alone with her grandpa with literally having nothing to do she's gonna get insane. Thankfully, her mother also realized this, so at first they've decided that the whole family would move to grandpa's, and now they're even thinking that probably it's best just to get the grandpa to theirs.

So the situation is not AS bad as it could have been, but still it really frustrates her. She really loves me and misses me a lot even when we're apart for only a weekend. And I'm concerned about her because of all the shit. She's been very upset lately because of all these, and I have 2 difficult exams left and she's always telling me that I have to concentrate on my studies but I just can't sit here doing nothing. We talk every day on phone and also facebook and she has a very nice girl as a best friend at home who comforts her.

She's coming back for a few days next week, or the week after. Date is yet unkown, depends on her grandma's condition, and how her mother decides. And I want to do something special to cheer her up. If anyone has some nice idea what I could do in the dorm, I'd grately appreciate it. Also, advice on how I could possibly help her is VERY MUCH welcome.

Thanks in advance.

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Tough deal.

About the best thing you can do is let her know you care, and you know it's a rough time for her, and to let you know how you can help.

All real alpha, depending on how close you are with her family, etc, might just take the initiative to help somehow. Without details, there's no way to know what is possible or what is or isn't a good idea or move, but chances are if one exists, you'll know it when you see it.

One example might be telling her if she needs to interview for jobs or something when she is supposed to take care of her gpa that you would take care of him or be with him while she goes to the interview, etc.

Random shit like that shows support, and even offering to do so shows you care, and are willing to take care of her and those close to her when you're needed. It will make her feel safe and secure, plus something like that never looks bad to the family. Only you know what you're willing to do, and what is appropriate.

I'm just wondering how much lower this could possibly go? This morning at 6:30 a.m. she woke me up on the phone. She was sobbing and crying. Turns out her grandma most possibly has leukaemia. We both are med students, as I've said. I just couldn't tell her that "everything is gonna be okay, your grandma will be fine". We know better what it means if such an old person is diagnosed with leukaemia. So instead I was just listening, and trying to calm her, and saying that she can call me any time she needs me.

She thanked me for being there for her, and as far as this goes, I don't think I could do anything more than that. Only if I had time, but I need to study. I can't fail another year because my parents won't have money to pay for that.

On the bright side, she's coming this monday. I've some plans. I'm going to take her out for a little walk. We're gonna visit where she used to rent a room(now she lives in the dorm too). There's a dog she really liked and I think she'd be happy for this idea. After that, nearby there's a small grassy hill. I'm planning on bringing some stuff in a backpack. Including blankets, some wine, and some food. So we're gonna have a little romantic dinner there and after that we can come back home. What do you guys think?

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Sounds fine to me. Regardless of how you feel about a girl, sometimes shit just isn't about you.

Good luck bro, and good luck to her too.