So I've been with current girlfriend for 6 months now and we have a good relationship for the most part. Thing is we barely see each other anymore (once a week maybe, due to jobs, schools, and side hobby's), and she doesnt seem to put in effort to contact me as much as I do for her. I'm starting to get those feels where i'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship. I mean were not getting married or anything so whats the point right now, right? BUT I do still want to be with her. Its weird.

Anyways that said there's this other girl, that I've had a sort of interest in for a while, even before my current relationship. Shes a hb8. I've just had this strong attraction to her for so long, different sort of sexual attraction, very strong. Its been coming up in my relationship recently.

Were texting the other day and she says shes drinking wine this weekend, we get started talking on wines, she notices i know my wines very well; more than she thought she did.
She says well have to try some wines together sometime.
I say "we'll see". (PS-she knows im in a relationship).
She says "Oh come on it would be fun we could catch up?"
I say "hmm... next weekend maybe, if you don't tell anyone!"
she says "lol okay"
I say, "maaybe, and its just wine drinking"
her-"Exactly".
me-"Yeah sure, I can do that"
her-"I'm not looking to get you in any trouble with your girl. Dont worry."
me-"haha alright then, see you next weekend! Your place or mine?"
Her-"Your's, my mom is going to be crazy with packing she's leaving for vegas"
Me-"Lucky! we should play poker, except we'd need more people."
Her-"Haha I dont know how to play poker!"
Me-"well it's not so fun with two anyway, but i do have some fireworks ive been waiting to light off!"
Her-"Yeah! thats what well do!"
Me- "Fireworks and wine it is!"
Her-"I'm excited!"
Me- "Yeah me too, well, anyways, i gotta get some sleep here"
Her- "Okay goodnight "
Me-"Goodnight"

Guys I'm not sure if its worth even thinking about hanging out with this girl at all because I do love my current girl, but then there's the sexual urge inside of me that says i have the opportunity to get with this other girl and I need to take it. Its such a strong urge, and only with this particular other girl. I would break up with my current girl before doing anything, i wouldn't cheat. But i'm just tied up between what to do. I have no idea.

I'ts eating me up inside trying to figure out what to do!

Advice guys?

Appreciate it, thanks.

C'mon guys, really torn here!

Is 1994 your year of birth? I believe you should experience different girls in your younger years in order to know what type of partner you are looking for, more importantly what you don't look for in a partner.
It is also important to experience that while every relationship is unique, almost every relationship is replaceable. "Plenty of fishes in the sea" - many say it, most do not truly understand it.

I also believe in honesty, decency, integrity, loyalty and all those great things. Therefore I appreciate you not wanting to cheat on your girl. Only cowards betray, if you can't focus on 1 girl then don't be in a relationship.

In the end no one can make the decision for you, but some can guide you in the right direction. Give some more infos if you don't mind.
If you are still 20 or below, I'd break up with your girl. It's too early to settle and there are so many more experiences to make - good and bad ones. The experience of losing someone you care about makes you stronger too.

Yeah, that is my year of birth. 19 y/o. Yeah definitely not going to betray her with cheating on her. I do want to experience other women, and i know i am too young to be tied down... But i do love this girl, and i keep thinking how staying with her could either pay off, or just suck and end up making me regretting wasting that time. Thing is you cant tell what it will be. I just dont want it to feel like a waste of time if I do. Im leaning towards breaking it off, or maybe suggesting an open relationship-although im almost certain that would not work.

If your girl doesn't put in much of an effort anymore, or at least less than you want her to, that won't make you very happy over time... And if you don't change anything she won't put in more effort anyway.

What about breaking it off by giving her this reason? You can tell her you want to go separate ways for a while until she's willing to put in more effort?

Okay guys, decided to pursue this other girl. We set up a date for friday. all was good until i text her wednesday with "Hey you" she replies "Heey." I say "whats up!" -No response from her. I text her the next day (thursday) with "Fridays going to be after 6pm. I'm pretty busy before then"

Still no response and our set up date is tomorrow. Does it sound like she's going to flake? I would be a little unamused if she did.

Aaanyways. What should i do about this. What should i say if she just doesn't text me tomorrow? I dont want to come off as needy.

Don't text her at all. Wait for her to text you.

You already have a girlfriend you love. You don't need this second girl. If she doesn't come onto you, forget about it. Logically, she shouldn't flake on you since she's the one who basically asked you out. But something in her might have made her realize she's actually going on a date with you, and that it's wrong.