| note: I've been seeing this girl for a few months now, we met in a karaoke league. I'm at some phase in my development as a man and social entity (used to be a man apart, quiet, judgemental) where women are very attracted to me but it's all pretty new and I'm learning rapidly.
Here's my situation:
I did this karaoke league thing for 1 year to get over my stage fright. This girl got randomly assigned to my karaoke team in the third and last season. I'd slept with one ug girl in the league before that, dated one didn't sleep with her and 1 girl from my old town that happened to be in the league. I almost immediately started hearing rumors about what a "player" I was, but in my mind I'm nearly incompetent and only have moderate success with women. This is changing, fast. I also tend not to sleep with women unless *I* really feel a connection and want a larger relationship because sex is a Big Deal (due to old beliefs that I haven't actively chosen), and often this leaves women hanging and feeling rejected by me.
So this hot girl gets assigned to my team in the third season. The attraction was obvious and she ended up dragging me behind the bar and making out with me after a couple weeks. I was the captain of our team so I was playing it cool and not hitting on everyone, half because I don't know what I'm doing half the time and that seems kinda crazy too-good-to-be-true and half because fucking everyone seems like a good way to cause problems (but I'm starting to think that if I were just fucking all of the women in this bar that this would be easier).
Anyway, this girl gets to call herself my girlfriend, but this is my first "relationship" where I don't actually want to be monogamous because I've got a lot to learn, but I like this girl quite a bit and would be monogamous if it weren't for my quest to master myself. I have however been monogamous because I'm fucking busy with my life, and this is my only real circle with available women at the moment. I've been going out on weekends and meeting people and flirting with women to keep progressing.
So, here's my "dilemma": every other girl at this place wants to fuck me and she's telling me all the time how much everyone is hating on her. Glares, cold stares, bitchy comments, etc. From my point of view everyone seems very friendly, but I'm the alpha in that environment and I think she's just having a hard time handling being the woman on my arm.
So my question is, within this little social circle where I've been actively not fucking women who are throwing themselves at me because of my default sense of sexual/social responsibility (which is left over from whatever I grew up with, I haven't chosen it actively) how can I best handle this? I like having all of these women attracted to me, and if my girl drops me over this I'll probably start with the next hottest one. Hell I'd like to have all of them in my bed at once (crazy thing is I live in my car at the moment and they all think it's so cool, haha).
Out of the whole crowd there's only 2 girls that I really consider hot, my girl and one other and I have put the other one off but we had a bit of a connection the other night and it just felt good to have that happen and not worry about it. But I'm not going to go behind anybody's back and I want all to be cool. A lot of these girls I'd probably sleep with on a cold rainy day, but otherwise it doesn't seem worth the drama, y'know?
My girl went dancing with the aforementioned other hot girl and one other last night and now I'm getting drama texts. Women (besides these 2 she went dancing with) that wish I was fucking them hating on her because she's the lucky one. I want to deal with this appropriately and could use advice.
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