I dont even know if this is the right board to ask, but what are some ways of staying hard longer and producing more ... ummm essence when you finish?

Thanks for any tips.

Have self control. Learn how to control your mind and just tell yourself not to finish yet. Focus more on pleasing the girl than pleasing yourself. Once you feel yourself start to go "limp," then its back to making you happy until you get a full blown erection again. Keep alternating between pleasing her and pleasing yourself and it will make you last long. The longer you last, the more build up of "essence" you get, the bigger the load is. It really comes from practice and knowing when you are close and being able to stop right before the point of no return. Go down on her once you start to feel yourself reach that point and regain your self-control.

Agree with Magikal. Also use condoms if you don't already use them. If you already use condoms, use the long-lasting thicker type eg. Durex Performa.

Bend your dick downwards while you fuck by adjusting the angle of your dick. And avoid positions which make you come quickly. Use a cock and ball ring if you are open to experimenting.

To produce more spunk, work out, get in shape and eat oysters.

And most importantly STOP FAPPING so much in between sex sessions.