Background.

coming up on 2 year relasionship.

im 23 she is 19 both in college

recently been working on our relasionship because we both felt like attraction was dying off (sex as well)
She has been increasingly distant more frequently. we go through spurts when i step my game up.

We lived together for 6 months and mutually decided i should move out because we were both tired of each other but did not want to break up whatsoever.

she is going to live in a home with all girls next year. one of them is a pretty big slut (but she has a bf at the moment)

Story

So we are studying at her apartment after going and getting some dinner. She gets a SPAM call from one of her friends she is going to live with. they start talking about one of her friends who parties all the time and sometime brings home random guys. they are laughing and joking. then her friend says "What do you think T(my girl) is going to do when she breaks up with S(me) implying that she will be bringing home randoms as well. My girlfriend said "guys my boyfriend is right here. im not breaking up with him (this was said in a non defensive tone just kind of non chalant, or a "o shit" tone like she couldnt believe her friend just said that with me there) either way i did not think she responded the way a girl would have if it was not true.

Honestly I was crushed when i heard this. I tried to keep my cool but knew i wasn't going to be passive aggressive about this and i needed to mention it as soon as she was done with the phone call. When we talked she started crying of course (she gets emotional) and said that her friend that said that always jokes around and says that she should break up with me so she will have someone to hang out with..... I do not buy that bullshit because of how it was said.

I honestly think she has been talking about breaking up with me to them and they forgot i was sitting there. I am trying to rekindle this relasionship but it almost seems like i should bail, i just couldn't break up with her because i felt like i didn't have enough and i could just be being insecure about this.

Any advice guys???

ONEITIS ONEITIS ONEITIS!!

Break up with her, don't wait for her to dump you. Just have it be a mutual thing. She only cried because she was caught thinking about breaking up with you. Because naturally when a girl cries men typically turn into "console her mode."

Break the fuck up, sarge other girls, find one you get along with better. Why try to save something that is dead, ESPECIALLY if she is way younger than you. You didn;t make her feel like SHE is lucky to have YOU.

My advice, move on. Find another girl or two or ten.

Move on son, move on.

I will never understand how guys date under 21 girls in college and expect maturity and long term relationships. They're at an age where they go through a lot of changes, are figuring out what they want, and need to be free to really explore their options. That's like buying a Hummer and expecting good gas mileage IMO. Move on.

The post reeks of insecurity. I'm also slightly offended that you'd describe a girl as "a big slut". "Slut-shaming is hatred of men." Get it in your head that nothing lasts forever.. especially at this age. You two will eventually break up for one reason or another. Enjoy it while it lasts and get as much experience as you can. Don't get too hung up on the cheating thing. Girls cheat if they are validation-seekers and they cheat if they have already lost attraction for their boyfriends. Stay positive and work on keeping your girlfriend satisfied.

/Only chumps bail because they're afraid of getting hurt. Man up.

-Wolf

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I'd say move on man it seems like she's just using you because she's living with you if I was you I'd go more distant game other girls and make my girlfriend justify herself to me to see how bad she really wanted me.

"only chumps bail because they are afraid of getting hurt"

This is one thing that stuck out to me big time.

*side note* I honestly do not want to lose this girl because of how far i came from wuss mode - to gaming girls- getting her- and now close to losing her. Why the hell would i want to lose this, this girl helped me in so many ways she was a great girl and it is my fault the relasioship is close to ending it is because of my insecurities and failed attempts to keep attraction alive. I got lazy, I am looking for ways to get my MAN traits back so she looks up at me with that look like "dam he is a man" not "he is a burdened now"...

back to chumps bail... What the hell do i do instead? I am afraid of getting hurt and in a way that is why i havent bailed yet. I know i am insecure now and have a severe case of oneitis.

*my thoughts/update on situation*
She has become distant, i think that because it is her junior year in college she is not sure if she wants to stay with me or live a college life. i told her all the time that if she ever felt like she wanted to live that life feel free and i would let her.

I called her today because she sent me a picture of her grades where she made the deans list. When i called afer work she was in a real noisy place and said she waas out for one of her friends birthdays. Usually in this relasionship we text all day and she would at least tell me she was going out, this time she did not. I didnt act mad on the phone just got a little short and asked if she wanted to come over after, she said she maybe would and she beat me to ending the call.. didnt say "I love you" which 90% of the time she does.

Are my thoughts accurate? I know i need to sarge other girls but i work so dam much i cannot go out. WHat do you guys think???