Is there any way to make no-contact work better other than not replying right away to text messages and calls?

i.e. when they message say you're busy, you'll talk to them later then don't message them later?

What about updating statuses on facebook, twitter, uploading pictures? if they are following you?

I want this girl to chase me. I don't want to chase her anymore than I have as she is showing a bit of disinterest where as she was heavily interested last week.

When I started to read PUA, attraction etc forums, and articles i was looking for advices and tricks to achieve my goal... And yes, you can get alot of them on internet, and yes they actually work... But still you miss the point...

Yes, trick, manipulation and all that stuff usually can get you to achieve your goals (like getting ex back, attracting girls and stuff) BUT it only works short term beacause very soon you fuck things up again, then then you come back for more tricks and advices... And it is one endless circle, before you finally get the right point!

And that point is: You have to dont give a fuck... Not pretend that you are ultimate,alpha, don juan, but to dont give a fuck for real (inner game)... Then you can ACTUALLY acomplish something...

So this is my only advice: Just work on yourself to dont give a fuck... The simplest, and hardest thing to do... but only RIGHT thing to do.

So if you go NC, you go NC for yourself, not to play some childish stupid manipulation games... Dont expect it to work, just do it beacause you want to do it, and beacause you find it right thing to do...

And when you come to that point (to be honest, i m not there yet, but improving it step by step) things work themself out one way or another, but since you dont give a f..k it doesnt really matter ...

Thanks man I see what you're saying. I know one of my friends who are like that, they just don't give a fuck. All the girls come crawling back to him. When it doesn't work he doesn't think twice, and they still come crawling back!

Harare is on the money. Me personally I don't do no contact to get the girl to be more interested. If you like the girl and she shows disinterest then going no contact will fuck you up. Why?
The problem is that you go no contact not because you want to but because you think it will work. It might work might not. You invest energy into not contacting the girl. You want to, but you know that you shouldn't. This will drain your energy big time. You'll get frustrated, checking your phone constantly. Did she text me ? Did she email me ? Let's check her facebook while we are at it. I'm sure you guys know how this is. I do from personal experience.
Now you are really invested emotionally, you are outcome dependent. You WANT the girl to get more interested by your actions.
Problem is, she might get more interested she might not. You have no control over this and you'll feel powerless.
Then likely you wait for 2-3 days (can be weeks depending on the person) and start thinking "I should send her a text" or "Did I fuck it up by not messaging her ?" or something else bullshit, but the thing is. She is on your mind.
If you finally snap and text her you have all your frustrations manifested in the text. Well maybe not, but it'll come out sooner or later.
If you don't contact her then yes she might do at some point but again. You WANT her to be interested. You WANT her to show interest cos hell you went no contact she should be really wondering what you've been up to shouldn't she. Well again she might does, might not.
The point is. You went no contact because you wanted to influence the outcome. Where she might not have been interested in the first place.
I hope I made some sense with this example.

Wow man that really helped out actually. I ended up texting her last night and setting up a date with her. I don't know if I made it clear it was a date or not, but I was flirting and it was quite obvious but she seemed very excited to meet up. Mind you guys, this is my ex and she even asked me to call her and I said she could call me if she'd like too. We ended up talking on the phone and she even told me she loved me. I ended up saying it back and the thing was I tried to work my game on the phone without being pushy and AFC, it seemed to have worked in my favor also. She seemed genuinely happy and interested. She said she'd talk to me soon, so I think my best bet is to wait on that and not go out of my way to text her first as I might push her away again or make her feel pressured. I've made a lot of changes since we split about 2 months ago and I know she doesn't know what she wants yet but I feel I might be able to make it more clear to her. I'm just wondering how to act when face to face with her in this meeting....

Awesome news. Hopefully this girl who cheated on you and is flaky will fall for you again! It's like your running a marathon and at the end is a piece of shit. Find...a...better...woman....

Obviously you dont see what i m saying, but no worries, few more failures and you will

Love this

What are you doing this whole time?

You need to improve yourself. Lift weights. Read books. Go out every time you're invited. Get laid, but only if the girl is as attractive as your girl or more. If she's less attractive, you'll regress.

During this time, push your ex out of your mind and figure out what kind of girl you want and what kind of man you have to become to attract that. What kind of man would you have to be to attain that caliber of woman, not just for a day or week or month or year, but as long as the rest of your life (if you so choose)?

You are a single man and if you improve your life enough in this no contact period, she may be open to coming back and it will be your decision to continue it if you want. If all you're doing is twiddling your thumbs and waiting, she will not come back and this time will be miserable for you.

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I'm actually in a period of no contact myself, but I WILL reestablish contact eventually (you don't have to):

In anycase these were my goals for 4 - 6 weeks:
1 - Saying yes to every social event I can
2 - Working on University (exams are coming up)
3 - Finishing some start up companies I've been working on
4 - Reading "The Power of Now" and brushing up on PUA material (haven't read anything new on the subject for over a year)
5 - Getting my Drivers License (changing countries sure sucked, it's about time I got it out here)
6 - Going to gym
7 - Closing 5 - 20 women
8 - Going to be signing up to Jujitsu to occupy a bit more time

bottomline work on yourself, pursue your hobbies, don't stop, a better you will give you the highest odds to get her coming back but even then it might not get her back but it will get someone of equal worth or better for sure. high value attracts high value

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