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| lizardposture | PostPosted: Fri Apr 26, 2013 10:49 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Apr 26, 2013 10:30 pm Posts: 6 | | Hey guys, i've been suffering from severe depression almost my whole life and even though i've been on medications though for a year i still feel very suicidal and it's really killing my relationship. I've dated my current girlfriend for about 5 months now and i've read a lot of PUA and really focused on becoming an attractive dominant male and it's been working really good, almost too good. I really had this girl fall for me like crazy but now during the past weeks she said she's been noticing that i visit the doctor a lot, i visit my psychiatrist 2 times a week and some other doctors here and there for my antidepressants but i haven't told her that and i've never even given her a hint that i am depressed, she just thinks it's for some illnes or something. Anyway i'm really worried she's gonna start loosing attraction now, i've read that women despise weak men, i mean how fuckin alpha is it to be a freakin mentalcase?
So what do you guys think, should i ever tell my gf anything more about my "hospital visits" or should i just try to keep covering it up? I've been doing a pretty good job so far but i dont know how long i can keep going, my depression is slowly going even deeper and i'm afraid it's going to take this and all my future relationships with it. :/
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| Jason. | PostPosted: Sat Apr 27, 2013 1:49 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict |  | Joined: Thu Dec 13, 2012 11:55 pm Posts: 282 Website: http://selfdevelopmentpua.blogspot.com.ar/ Location: Argentina | | this is a very profund subject so i hate to simplify but maybe thats what you need now. do you have a valid reason for being depressed? like dude if you have lost someone or something telling that story the right way will help you guys connect even more, as you open yourself she will be able to feel safer if she does have secrets she needs to share with you and the relationship will get richer too.
but yes weak man are not attractive. showing your vulnerable side is good, but you have to be able to project it so it makes you stronger, not weaker, in her eyes.
we all have issues, and being aware and accepting that reality is alpha. if you try to be perfect, that shows that you are not planted well enough into the ground and you need to become more solid. this is the way i suggest you approach this issue, accept that you are not perfect, show her that you are strong and that you struggle. you are not surrendering to that reality, you are working on yourself to become a better and stronger man, thats why you are in the pua community, and that is very important.
if you have a valid reason to be depressed, thats the way you should approach the conversation when you tell her. do tell her, it might even help, but be really careful, vulnerable is not the same as weak. _________________ There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
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| Jason. | PostPosted: Sat Apr 27, 2013 1:56 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict |  | Joined: Thu Dec 13, 2012 11:55 pm Posts: 282 Website: http://selfdevelopmentpua.blogspot.com.ar/ Location: Argentina | | also, i dont think acting out with a person you care so much about will be good for your self belief, not accepting how you are hurts your confidence. own your reality! _________________ There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
Blog:
http://selfdevelopmentpua.blogspot.com.ar/
Twitter:
@projectbsas
Email for free, anonymous private advice:
projectbuenosaires2013@gmail.com
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| lizardposture | PostPosted: Sat Apr 27, 2013 10:37 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Apr 26, 2013 10:30 pm Posts: 6 | | I was neglected by my parents and sodomized at school, i don't really know if that's a valid reason but i sure don't wanna tell her that!
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| neo87 | PostPosted: Sat Apr 27, 2013 12:44 pm | |
| Offline | | Ask a mod for a custom title | Joined: Sat Jun 20, 2009 1:32 am Posts: 3904 | | If this is not a troll post, that sucks dude. IMO you can't be completely honest with your gf about this.
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| User13247 | PostPosted: Sat Apr 27, 2013 3:08 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Fri Oct 19, 2012 11:08 am Posts: 415 | | Tell her. You cannot hide a severe disorder like depression, and all the better if she supports you. _________________ One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.
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