So we are going out a year in a sort of relationship...

we were meant to meet up one night. she was out with the girls and me with my friends in seperate places.

we were texting all night and then all of a sudden when we were meant to meet I can't get in touch with her.

It drove me mad. Next day she texts saying her battery died but it was bullshit because the phone kept ringing.

i went to her house and she lied about being there but I knew she was there so I called on the door. Eventually she let me in.

I asked if she slept with someone and she said no and said she didnt want to talk about it and she was hungover and didnt want me there

I asked her a few weeks later about that night and she said...its none of your business

Is she just using it against me now? I suspect nothing happened with any other guy because she answered with a strong NO and a look of...what are you talking about.

Just wonder what opinions are on this?

Even with that kind of reaction I wouldn't be so sure. From what you say there's defos something fishy going on. When she gave you that 'no wtf' response was that the first time you'd asked her? If not then she may have had it prepared. Even if it was the first time you'd asked she might have been anticipating you asking her.

Ask yourself this, if nothings up then why has she changed her behaviour from before that night and now? If you can be sure it wasn't something you specifically did then something has to have happened in that peiriod of time. In this case, why is she so secretive about it if she has nothing to hide? It might not be that she slept with someone, but maybe kissed or something more serious.

Bottom line here mate, you don't know why she's asking weird all of a sudden. But the fact she won't be straight with you with the reason for that suggests something's not right.

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She was with someone else for sure, if what you wrote is accurate. You need to bounce and leave that girl alone, she is just going to continue to hurt you from here on out.

it happened 4 months ago but still cant get it out of my head but now shes still with me last few months. shes prob bad news though anyway. i asked her about the night again recently and she said she doesnt want to talk about it

but think about it. if i cheated on her and she asked me... i'd deny it prob down to the ground.

its more of a shit test i think. oh well i dont need this drama anyway

If you really want to find out I'd ask again but don't take no for an answer this time. If she says 'I don't wanna talk about it' reply with something like 'Well I do. And were gonna talk about it now or else we were not talking again, full stop." Like you said you think she's bad news, so show her you could ditch her without a second thought and she'll probably crumble. If she still won't talk, or tells a blatant lie, then you should be able to get your answer from that.

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She is clearly disrespecting you. This would be way out of my tolerance levels. And yes probably she was with somebody else. Have you ever set any boundaries in the relationship?

The thing is, you want to talk about it. "I don't want to talk about it" is a fucking easy solution. But that's not how things work, you are in a relationship with 2 people, if it makes you feel unhappy, you SHOULD talk about it.

Tell her, that it makes you feel unhappy. If she refuses to talk about it, soft next her. Untill you get your problems solved.