Hi guys, I need an advice. Situation is like this; I'm living in a flat with 2 girls a little over a year now and we're getting along just fine. I live in one room, they share another room so we don't actually see each other that much. When we do, it's mostly in between calsses and other obligations in dining room. Everything is pretty casual and I would say we are good friends.

With that being said I've been spending more time with Jess than the other roomate. Mostly because we share similar interests, she makes me laugh I make her laugh. Latley we have been talking more than usual and actually I think I'm falling for this girl. As our conversations progressed I learned much about her, without revealing much about myself (I'm a private person). I can tell she enjoys my company; she's laughing constantly and tells me I'm weird like her (Which I am) and she likes that about me. The problem is I'm basiacaly friendzoned. To make things even harder she's in a on and off relationship with her best friend, they know eachother since she was 16 and she's madly in love with him.

I would really love your advices on how to deal with this situation, since I'm living with her obviously I can't pretend I'm much cooler then I actually am, you get the idea.

(I'm not sure if this is the right section for this kind of post, but don't know where else should I post this)

Only thing you can do is make yourself less available to just you and her alone, and invite more girls over or be with more girls in general. You will then pop out of the friendzone eventually, depending on how fast you progress and do this. Why? She will find you both a lot more unpredictable and exciting, and therefore get the urge to hunt you (again). Then you have reverted the friendzone, and you can play along.

Good luck, man!

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I disagree.

Best thing you can do is wait for an ugly off again moment, which sounds inevitable. When she mentions this, I'd say Listen, you're a great friend, awesome girl, I really care about you and feel bad for you when times are hard or something like that. Follow it up and say you'd love to show her how a real man would treat her, but you can't do that as long as she's with someone else or not sure that she is ready to be done permanently with her current relationship. So, until then, you'll be a roommate and a friend, but that's all you can be, but it's still hard for you to watch her go through all that.

This does 2 things. 1. Tells her she doesn't have to fear life without her on again off again bf. 2. It shows you have moral standards that make you unavailable to her and is DHV to the max. Basically you're planting the seed in her head that if she would just dump the douche she is with on again and off again she could have a great guy who won't put her through the shit he is.

My only warning is that if you do this, it's likely she will want to use you for a rebound right after she decides to dump the guy she's with, which is likely to happen within a couple weeks of you telling her this, if it's going to happen at all. And we all know how rebounds typically pan out. I'll just about guarantee that you'll fuck her at some point though if you tell her this shit in approximately the manner I said here if you play your cards right after the fact.

EDIT: I want to be clear if you go this route, make sure you don't come across as the beta orbiter. Be clear, pointed, sure of yourself, and once you've spit it out, leave it alone and don't ever bring it up again. Make her chase you to give her anything more.