Hey guys,

Just got back from a trip with my girl, found some stuff when she left her phone with me. Her flirting with this dude awhile back. Nothing to intense just playful stuff, they have a past together. It got me a little worked up but calmed down after.

So this week Wednesday she went out. She invited me out thursday which always means something is happening for her a day earlier. She acted weird and short with me all day then went out. I texted her and asked her if she had 30 minutes that night to catchup. She left early and came to mine. She was vague about who she was with etc but had dinner. I am pretty sure she was with her friends, I have never met these people and I can almost guarantee most of them will be guys. Any way I let her go after that.

She then started talking up doing some intimate stuff but came round wearing about a million layers. I was kinda pissed because she has been acting a little different all week and now she wanted to go home early also.

My actions instead of bringing it up with her and voicing my concern:

Went distant, silent, didn't make a big deal out of anything.

She kept asking me what was up etc I said nothing and let her go home without fuss. She called me up later to ask what was up and again I stuck to it. She kept asking me to talk on the phone so I told her some stuff about my day.

I found out that she is obviously still after me and I expect she will come prepared next time we meet now if shes going to talk it up.

Was this dealt with correctly? This is a 2 year relationship and throughout I have had trouble dealing with some of her actions. I plan to now act natural because I know that there was nothing to worry about in the first place.

Posting this in the first place should clue you into the fact that you need to work on your game. You are seeking validation from the nebulous concept of manhood, aka PUAs. So, I'd say that probably you didn't handle it correctly.

It's nearly impossible to not be bothered by this kind of shit, but that's the goal. Create a life so great with so many interesting people in it that if your gf is being weird you don't worry about it. Lofty goal, but worthwhile.

Keep in mind that girls are perceptive little vixens. Trying to act natural will come off as acting, better to not have to act.

As an self-glorifying example, the girl I am seeing texts all kinds of guy, hell I don't care, she's hot. I expect that she is flirting with other guys, she better be. When I walk in a room with her every guy is looking at her and I just smile. When I am not with her am I supposed to expect that guys magically stop being interested in her?

Another thing to think about: I'm flirting with other girls as well, it's great fun. Point is, men and women should interact sexually. Yes, at some point you make commitments to someone that you will not develop attachment to anyone else and that you will have sex only with her. But that doesn't mean that either of you should stop flirting and having fun. You should have been doing the same all along. Why weren't you?

Haha thanks you're spot on. The wakeup I needed. Cheers will keep working on the inner stuff, my life etc and stop focusing on small things.