Yesterday I broke up with my common law wife. We had been in a serious relation for 9 months and living together for the last 3 months. She is a single mom, 31 years old. I am 34. Her kid is 6 years old.

On Thursday evening, she asked me to use my laptop to buy a new frying pan. I let her and went to sleep, as I have to wake up for work very early, an hour before she does. While I was sleeping, she used the opportunity to check my Facebook account. She checked every message until she found some chats I had in August, while she was "reconsidering the relationship" because I wasn't seeing her everyday as she wanted, and I tried the waters with some friends in case I was dumped.

And she also found that I asked the phone number of a girl days before we committed as boyfriend/girlfriend. I actually did that just for the sport, to know I was still capable of picking up another girl if I wanted, and only sent a few sms that same week.

It doesn't matter that I never cheated on her, she says she would no longer trust me.

I demanded to know why she had done that, and she said it was because three weeks ago she took my phone and found a bikini pic a Facebook friend. I explained that it was there just because in Symbian you have to download a pic to see it large. I admitted to being a horny jerk, and apologized again and again, and deleted every girl in my Facebook account that looked slutty, including old time friends. In that occasion she said she forgave me. But it is sure she didn't.

I can agree to being a jerk (back at that time), but I can't agree that it is a reason strong enough to dump me. Sure, she could have yelled at me for hours, and make me sleep in the couch for a couple of days, but not dumping.

There is another thing to consider. That same day, on Thursday, she asked my permission to become a vip prostitute. She said she didn't know escort girls made so much money, and that way she could leave her (very well paid) job at a Casino and spend more time with her son. I didn't tell her right away she was freaking crazy. Just tried to make her understand that things are not that easy as they sound. But she said she could even have some job mates as customers immediately. The conversation ended when she said it was obvious that it made me feel bad, and that she would only do if we weren't together.

Do you think she had some other reasons to dump me or is she right and I am just an unfaithful jerk?

I feel this is 80% her fault, but I want some help to learn from this.

Don't worry, I would not get back with her, ever again. And I feel very sorry for her kid.

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IMO she was cheating on you... IME people who fear others are committing infidelity are quite guilty of it. Every time I've ever found out about a woman or man calling their partner out on cheating they were the guilty party.

Honestly she did you a favor by sabotaging the relationship, I would never date a girl that in LTR said let me be a prostitute I'll make a lot of money(not just like that but that was the message).

That girl is crazy... and your life will be much better off without her. She was deleting facebook friends and going through your phone I could never be with a woman who didn't trust me. It makes no sense to have a relationship when relationships are built on trust when there is no trust.

I honestly do not feel that you should be out collecting numbers or having dates when you are in a relationship but that is how I feel... I'm a very loyal guy. That said this is a pick up artist forum and almost every guy on here that has a relationship also still goes and picks up girls, or fucks other girls. It is up to you to live your own philosophy on it, I just believe you should be honest about it either way. If I was still picking up girls I would want those girls to be ok with it (open relationship). I do not like hurting girls and that can happen with ease when you do things like this.

IMO you should always have an honest relationship, but that is just me, like I said you need to live within your own personal life philosophy not mine.

Good luck hopefully someone gives you a far more insightful answer than me.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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yeah mate, you are better off without her.

I agree with Vic. Women who snoop are trying to find evidence so that your attention is focused on defending yourself instead of checking up on her. My advice would be walk away. But if you insist this relationship is worth saving, why not do the same with her? Download a program to log her internet activities, you might be surprised to find she is on dating sites or chatting up guys on facebook.