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I doubt this chick has another guy on the line. More likely that because of her past and issues she doesn't have worked out she likes you, and that scares the hell out of her and she looks for any excuse she can find to pull away and keep herself protected. When you get hurt, it takes a long time and a lot of hard work to work through it all. This chick isn't done doing the work yet.
I'm going to give you a piece of advice that someone gave me on here once. You have feelings for this chick, that is clear. She has feelings for you too, if you tell the story right. But she is not gf material in her current state, and it's just going to be painful for you to sit around and put yourself through it with her. She needs to figure her shit out on her own, and when she does, THEN, MAYBE, you could engage in a relationship with her.
As far as the advice, it's simply this: Next time you're thinking about her or struggling, go jack off or fuck some other chick as soon as possible. It's highly likely that you're just letting nostalgia get in the way and you're thinking about all the good shit about her and pushing all the not good shit out of your mind. Keep it all in perspective, and make a good decision. If you can stick to your frame you win. Either you'll end up in a relationship with a great girl who doesn't have the issues this girl does, or this girl will figure her shit out, and be really glad that you forced her to deal with it, and your reward will be a chance at a great relationship with her after the fact. In the event that she never figures it out, you still win, because you spared yourself a lot of stress, heartbreak, frustration, etc.
Also, I'm not sure how much it applies, but refer to Wolfwood's 3 types of girls posts. This girl MAY just be a freak period.
Another possibility is that she is a social drifter and fits a typical M.O of one with intense sexual encounter followed by keeping in touch because she finds him exciting. These women are not commitment based, because she is the one that backs off when things get tough and rough. She is sane, smart and manipulative. To show you she is committing, she usually brings you to see her parents and siblings very early on in the relationship. But then, they've seen so many of her ex-BF come and go and usually keep their mouth shut, except maybe her dad. He will give you hints what you're going to expect. In my 2 relationships with these women, the dad will tell me hints about what to expect from her (man always helping another man). But as with all social drifters, the excitement will eventually wane off even if he does everything Alpha and right, because she wasn't even looking for a relationship. She was looking for companionship and when another washes up in front of her like this dude did during her vacation, she will latch on to him and this dude will end up with the same fate as her ex-BF did on her vacation. These playful women like to play and get bored easily. Sex and men are her playground. There's no freak period; only this dude is freaking about the relationship is ending. She's happy as a clam. Which was I suspect in the first place she might be this type of girl and that she's enjoying the free dinners and entertainment plus sex.
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