Talk to her intimately, and try to figure it out by the two of you what is really lacking in your relationship. Finding another relationship, without ending the first one, is more complicated. If you really feel that you won't fit with each other anymore, tell here. So that she has nothing to expect from you again.

Read this.. Although I had known this for ages already..

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic ... riend.html

Women in general falls in love SLOWER than men and the research showed this to be true. In general, it takes 88 days for a man to say I love you, but takes 134 days for the women to do so. Everything a man does in general to speed up the relationship results in failure. When it comes to sex, a resounding 58% of men and women confess in having had sex to bond intimacy in the first 3 months into the relationship, though more men than women want sex the first month but the percentage are actually pretty much as I thought it would be.

So in general, women lead the relationship and sex is the intimacy factor. Which is why it is important for you to have a "LIFE" outside of a relationship to being with because you can't put a lot of effort into it. As the study had shown, women in general fall in love slower, so you need to let her set the pace and give her space.

When I said women like sex, I meant sex in regards to orgasms not solely penetration. Women are emotional beings and they equate orgasms as being feeling pleasure and good. Enough of that plus some affection will equate you to Mr. Feel Good. Unfortunately, most women these days aren't virgins and most of them have a variance amount of emotional baggage. If she has an ex that delivered great sex to her that she won't forget, she will contrast him against you. In this case, you have to be MORE Alpha, MORE sensual and affectionate to her. Out gunning and Out maneuvering her ex or exes is the only way for you to win her heart. When she deemed it necessary to include you into more of her life, she will cue you in.

Cheers.

in some level i do agree with you, i believe that sex can bring feelings with it.
however i don't believe in the whole study, and don't think you can bring a girls feelings towards a man down to who is best in bed and most alpha! (though i am better than her ex's!!!)
thanks for the advices everyone, whenever i get these sick feelings it kinda helps me to read through all the answers, and makes me realize i need to change!!

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