I have been dating this girl for 1 and a half years. (I am 18 and at this age this is a very long ass time). I have very mixed feelings about her. 90% of the time I would rather be with anyone else then her, with friends etc and 10% of the time occasionally I want to meet her and tell her how much I love her. When I am not with her I am constantly thinking of other girls. Being in this relationship is extremely annoying, I don't know what to do. I've felt like this for a LONG time. I broke up with her after our 1year gap for a week and after I went back to her because I missed her so much.

I think I know why this happened. It was because I completely whipped her, she fell madly in love with me and I started to lose interest. When a relationship isn't on equal grounds 1 of you will lose attraction to the other, sure at first its great (Could have sex whenever I want, BJ's, Sandwiches/food, backrubs etc) but its so unattractive. I am a huge dick to her sometimes, I don't mean to be, in fact I hold myself back so much. But I know I am not treating her fairly.

The worst part of it is, this girl is one of my best friends. She is the one person I've managed to completely open up to and be 100% myself. I know that if I break up with her I will lose her, as obviously if we stay friends she will never get over me. I want to start living the life of PUA's, at this age I've realised now that relationships are pointless. I've only been with this one girl and I hate that fact. My friends are on 10-20 girls at my age and I really fucking hate being on 1. Maybe this is another reason too.

Any advice you can give would be much appreciated. -Ridler

If you don't love her anymore, then its kinder to let her go.

Not a decision to take lately, you really need to think about this and I don't think anyone on here can make that decision other than you. The single life is fun and gaming girls and all that is great, and I think its something guys need to get out of their system before settling down, obviously you haven't done that. But now I would really love what you have.

It is tough, but you could always return to friendship months down the line.

Oh, and you're mates saying they've slept with 20 girls at eighteen are probably lying.

My best friend is on 14, and I know every girl he has done it with so he can't be lying. He is always teasing me and saying how i've slept with only 1 girl. Thank you for your advice, I will think about it in the coming week and see what happens. Cheers.

I've slept with sixteen girls, but at this time of my life, I'm 23 (virgin till 20) and I think I'd trade most of them in for one girl who really loves me. But if you're losing interest it could well be a sign, but you might regret it later. Numbers don't matter.

It's almost incredible how you sound like I would a few weeks ago

See, I've been at this exact point, with the exact same symptoms. I'll tell you what I did, so you don't let it happen to you:

In 2012, I went to Spain for four months. After coming back (and sort of experiencing the single life, if you know what I mean), it wasn't the same. Also, what added up to the bad experience after coming home was that my gf at the time had to do a fairly terrible placement at the time. During this time, I was the one initiating everything. When I started uni a few months later, I had already realised I didn't want to be with this girl anymore. But I kept myself from doing the right thing and breaking up with her, probably because of the convenience you mentioned. Also, she was a very good friend for me and some part of me did not want her to get hurt by a breakup.

Long story short, We broke up during semester break. But believe me, the last weeks/months were terrible, and it makes you feel bad about yourself too, which I only realised AFTER breaking up. You know, relationships are not pointless, but at your stage in life (and mine, I'm turning 20 soon), settling down might not be what we're after. I don't think living the life of PUAs is your motivation; you don't love her anymore and you're making up the very same lame excuses I did.

I reckon you have trouble telling her that you simply lost interest. Ask her to meet you somewhere, and go to a bar or cafe, make sure it's not too crowded or a place you would go normally, you don't want people to recognise you and interrupt the breakup. Tell her that the relationship right now isn't right for you anymore. Most basically, you're doing the 'it's not you, it's me'-line. But make it personal and honest.

About being friends after breaking up: I'd recommend that you don't initiate contact. Like me, you won't be the one having trouble getting over it, but she will. Respect that and give her space, if she texts you, reply in a polite or otherwise appropriate manner. But don't initiate contact. She might text you weird things, or memories from your relationship; ignore that. It will be tough, but you will feel better about yourself after.

Its going to be horrible breaking up with her. Hurting her feelings always makes me feel more worse than anything in the world! She is one of the sweetest girls I've ever met in my life. Hurting her feelings would look like a cute little puppy getting kicked in the face.

I am going to hate my self so much. The first break up was so difficult I didn't see it through. I need to make sure this time round I don't fuck things up and get back with her. I need to be 100% sure that I can end it completely otherwise she is going to keep on getting hurt over and over again and I am going to be the biggest douche on the planet. I know that she deserves better then that. This shit makes me so depressed, I have some thinking to do. Again thank you all you've helped me more than my friends have. They don't know what its like to be in a long term relationship because none of them have lasted more than 3 months. They have no clue how this feels.