So the background is thus; been seeing this girl a while now, slept with her once on the 11th February which was also the last time I saw her.

Basically, she works as a carer for young women with learning difficulties, I admire and respect the incredibly hard and demanding work she does (often working over 24 hour sleep-in shifts.) Recently, due to exceptional circumstances, many of her co-workers have quit leaving her to take up the slack so she has been CONSTANTLY working of late on top of trying to arrange cover and bring in agency staff to help. This is fine and I am being understanding because on top of the stress she is already suffering, the last thing she needs is me to get stroppy at not being able to see her.

However, I am worried about the "relationship" dying a death. She has arranged cover for tonight but isn't free and is spending tonight and tomorrow with her family since she also needs to make time for them, and realistically I might not be able to see her for weeks! I am fine with not seeing a girl all the time, but there is a limit and this could easily die before it gets a chance to blossom. I really like this girl and see her as a potential gf (once the workload eases of course.)

So in the mean time, the only solution I can think of is to game other women and I have a date on monday, but I also want to keep the embers alive with this current girl. Any advice? I know I need to not be needy but the last couple of days I have been kind of pushing to see if she has any free time, but I haven't whiney about it and have been very understanding about the situation.

It just feels like its slipping away.

Update: Had a bad day yesterday, my Dad got diagnosed with cancer, emotions and stress running high. Acted a little beta about the not being able to see her thing, she didn't reply all day which reinforced my beta-ness. Thankfully I controlled myself and didn't make it worse, despite being drunk as a skunk. Got a text from her apologising for not replying, basically ignored my beta-ness hopefully.

This morning I sent a sincere (not afc) apology and she replied saying "Don't panic! This is a crazy time for the both of us! Can't text at work since the boss is in, will talk tomorrow. Hope things are looking up! Xx"

So now I am on damage limitation, and just letting her come to me. Given the circumstances, I think she can forgive my emotions getting the better of me. I have a propensity toward emotional paranoia and the sad news about my Dad prevented me from remaining in control. But I CANNOT slip up again!

Not really looking for a reply, just venting. Working on my inner game in the mean time.

i feel i same exact way. ibe been seein this single mom for a lil while and she almost never has time. i dont know if its beacuse im busy too but everytime i try to squeeze anytime in she dosent want to do anything. then we would talk on the phone and shes just at home watching a movie. im not gona act to needy im thinking of freezing her out but i dont knwo yet. we did have sex already and i dont know why this is so slow. she said she likes me and i just wana sped time with her.

Talk to her; ask her how important your relationships are. Tell her the truth what you feel about her being so busy in work. Ask her decision if she wants to continue your relationship or not. And whatever comes out, accept it, without any hesitations.

I dunno, feels too early to have serious relationship talks. Neither of us have entered anything, she has a crazy schedule and I imagine she is stressed so I am probably further down her list of priorities currently and I don't want to display anymore neediness.

My Dad's cancer hasn't spread and he has had the tumour removed, so that is a HUGE weight off my mind and she was pleased when I told her this, I think hopefully she is letting my lapse into neediness go.

I sort of want to step back and let her come to me, but a part of me worries that if I contact her less then it really will just die. Oh well, if that happens it wasn't meant to be. Definitely need to become the guy I was when we first met though, hopefully things shall be good again.

I just want to see her again, but don't want to push for it too much since I had been last week. Fucking frustrating about her job though!