My girlfriend is an interesting case. I can't get a good read on her. She has deep psychological traumas but is very loyal to me. I expect her to treat me like my ex did which was bitchy and rude and I let her walk all over me but she doesn't. She's extremely submissive. And yet because of her traumas she worries she'll hurt me. See because I'm the first person she's ever entirely let in emotionally she said its made her feel uncomfortable and she's thought of running away because of it. She said she's working on that. I was ready to leave but she didnt want that. Usually that's what it means but it seems like she's being genuine in trying to change and stay with me. The past week I've lost my head and been way too insecure with her doubting how much she loves me doubting her loyalty doubting how well I performed in bed even. I've lost my head and need to pull back and get some space. I don't ever want to be in the position of being hurt again and have half a mind to go sleep with other women but then I'd lose her and its not right. Idk I'm away from all my guy friends at the moment. What else can be good distractions so as not to become too dependent upon the girl?

Nothing. If you are after some magical PUA/this-or-that solution, you won't find it. If you prefer not being yourself and try to run from it by someone lying to you, or you trust some other opinion will be in charge of your life, then...
(Of course, use game, but don't overdo it.)
BUT, deal with your experience, deal with significant person in your life, don't ask for magic pill because there won't be any. Btw, I'm in a similar situation, there is my reason to answer you.

I hope for your sake this is not the case, but do yourself a favor and read THE SCARY TRUTH OF HOW A BPD LOVE RELATIONSHIP EVOLVES article found on sosuave net.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread ... 705&page=5
You'll be the judge.
Cheers