At the start of this year, I started dating a new woman. I met her off a dating site and so didnt know what to expect or how things would progress. Naturally with online relationships, there's an element of risk and always a concern that things might not work smoothly, but that's true of any relationship, right?

Anyhow over the next few weeks, she & I became very close and it was apparent that we were right for each other.

Now,is the part where she & I aren't seeing each other, a few days in to February.

So what gives? Well, here's the crux of the story.

Last time we saw each other was a week last Saturday, so in essence she and I had been together for only 3 weeks. But that was enough time to build a strong bond. Each time we'd clicked in to place with each other and we never had any arguments or awkward silences, we had been on ten dates in that time, well met each other at least ten times from the quick meet ups to the all day getting to know each other moments. We had even agreed to go away for the weekend together.

So what happened between that Saturday and now?

She was ill, so consequently we didn't see each other for that time. I'm not a pro texter and so I'd text her to see if she was ok but that was often about it as she'd tell me she was sleeping or I'd not want to go ott and send lots of messages to her when she was ill, because instead I wanted her to be able to rest.

I think this time allowed us to drift apart. In the early stages of a relationship, the frequent chats and seeing each other keeps the relationship alive. We didnt get the weekend away together which I think would have made a BIG difference as we would have had time to really connect.

One other factor is that perhaps I'm guilty of being too intense and wanting too much of the emotional side too soon as I fell fast for her. When we were chatting by text, over that week, she told me that she was a 'potential girlfriend', I freaked out at this and thought that this meant she was putting distance between us. As it happens, I shouldn't have worried about tags as they are just that, providing you're seeing each other, things are moving forward then tags are pointless. You just need to stay true to each other.

So this level of pressure on her, through the intense start, which I believe she felt too although maybe it was rushed and more intense than she would have liked.

Anyway, due to not really chatting for that week. I was thinking we would go away together and we'd have a lot if time together then! And the intensity, she broke up with me a couple of days ago.

Before anyone says, I realise that three week relationships should be easy to get over but what if I think that what we had was too good to let slip away? She told me that she was reluctant to be too involved because she didnt want to get hurt again. I wouldn't hurt her, I want the best for her, to support her and to cherish her. Since saying that she doesn't feel ready for a relationship with anyone, a break up that happened by text, so agai I didn't see her, I invited this part upon myself as I guessed her hand. I haven't messaged her since the break up chat, neither have I heard from her. Is there anything I can do to salvage what we had? I would do anything, to the point that I've registered here. She's a lovely woman and in spite of dating, many women in the past, I'm yet to connect to any so well.

If I keep leaving not chatting then she will presumably grow more distant but if I say anything then more pressure. I have a couple of her things that I guess she'll want back so should I suggest meeting with her to give these back and hope the spark returns when we see each other? I really don't know because I'm seeing the negative, like I know that she will just be like 'hi' 'bye' if she collects the stuff.

I'm going away for a few days now, so thinking along the lines of telling her as much and suggesting meeting to give her her stuff back when I get back. I really would like advice on how to rekindle things with her, the way things were with us, I could see us together long in to the future, we shouldn't have broken up just because we didnt see each other for a week, doesn't feel right.

If you've been giving her too much attention and investing so much, it's time to take that away. You need to give her the chance to miss you, and it's hard to do. Stop contacting her, if you do you will only reinforce her decision. Taking away all contact might cause her to question herself... But be prepared that she might not give a shit and you won't hear from her.

I suffer the same problem of becoming too attached very quickly once I like a girl, but it is definitely something you can get under your control.

So damn true! Realize that internet dating is different then meeting someone out of the street, behind a computer anyone can be anything. There are many sites that offer advise on what to write and not write to get attention, maybe she can't keep up with her facade or sees through yours.

I get wrapped up quick also and eventually get self inflicted hurt because of being rejected. Once you separate you from the situation, you'll learn that it is all in your mind.

Another thing to look at with internet dating; she is probably talking to other guys. She has talked to them before you and after you, I am sure you have too. Maybe she found someone she clicks with better or maybe you've pushed so hard that she pulling away. If you want her, take her; make her want you! It is really easy to be attractive, get your own life and enjoy your space. She doesn't need you to tell her what you are doing like reporting to her. You give her mystery by just doing things and when she asks why she hasn't heard from you, tell her you've been busy but don't tell her everything you have been doing.