So me and my gf had been dating for about a year and a half and had been officially together about 8 months. We broke up about a week ago and it has been hard on me. The main reason for this was the fact that we work together and have to see each other 4-5 days a week.

The CONSTANT exposure to one another just eroded our relationship and made me feel like i never got any time off from the relationship if that makes sense. Instead of being able to not think about things for a few hours i was forced to have to "deal" with my relationship at work and outside of work. The original plan was for us both to get new jobs as we both recently graduated with bachelors degrees. The job market sucks at the moment so that hasnt happened.

After we broke up i cut off contact with her as i didnt have to see her for a few days.
3 days later she texted me saying "hi how are you, we should exchange things tomorrow"
I said "im good how are you. ok lets do that."
She replies "im good thanks" and i think the conversation is over then ten minutes later she texts me some useless text about the super bowl.
I stupidly text her that i miss her (I know..) and i get an "i miss you too" back.

I realized my mistake with my honesty and didnt reply for the night and then this morning she texted me about bringing something to work today that i doubt she really needs all that badly.

Anyways that's the story and im not really sure how to be with her at work. Part of me is happy to be single again but part of me wants her back or at the very least i still want to sleep with her. She had the best sex of her life with me and she tends to go after idiots who wont satisfy her. Plus i have the advantage of seeing her frequently. She is obviously still contacting me but im not sure what to make of it. Should i just ignore her as much as possible or should i continue to work her and make her realize what shes missing? There are plenty of other women at work and it would be easy to make her feel jealous. I need some advice cause im conflicted.

Just tell her, let's exchange things after work. I don't want to mix work and my social life. They hit on some HBs at work to make her jealous. Repeat once or twice, then get her drunk and put it in her butt.

It's not really stupid to throw in some emotions sometimes.Trust me,she's been craving it. It's stupid to overdo it and become a needy desperate idiot.

So do you want her back or just the sex ?If you only want the sex don't be a jackass and have the decency to tell her that the only form of relationship you're still willing to have with her is strictly physical.


Don't toy with people's emotions.Not if it means braking their heart.

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Not really sure. Actually losing her has made me realize how much i love her and the stupid mistakes i was making in our relationship. To be fair she is insecure and has her own issues. I think she always felt like i was out of her league or some bs and this made her very insecure (jealous, territorial, and sometimes hostile towards other girls) despite me never cheating on her or doing anything to make her feel that way. With that being said we were best friends and i genuinely want to be a better bf for her.

The issue concerning us getting back together is she was in a very long term relationship before we got together and shes dealing with the whole "I want to try to be single but ultimately im a relationship type of girl" dilemma. I'm sure she will throw herself at a guy and attempt to live the single life but its just not who she is.

With that being said i wouldnt mind turning it back into a FWB situation like it was before we were exclusive if she has major concerns with us being in a relationship again. I just dont know what angle to take when seeing her.

"Baby, I really did miss you and I still want you with me. I know you miss me too. The whole relationship thing didn't work, but I would really like to see you on more casual terms. Maybe we can get back together long-term but for right now let's just casually go out every now again."

So we saw each other at work today and it was not too awkward. I tried to initiate some flirty contact and it worked. I said something like "are we still allowed to touch each other?" while standing right by her and she smiled and was into it and said "it could be dangerous." Turns out she thought i meant sex and basically said shes not sure.

We didnt exchange stuff and now she volunteered to come pick it up from my place later tonight. Should i try to make a move, see what she does, or just not do anything? Keep in mind its only been about 5 days since the breakup. Im wondering if i should make her wait for it longer since she's clearly interested and has it on her mind. Whatcha guys think?

Hm. All I know, is so soon after, and nothing changed. If you try to pick it back up immediately, but don't seriously discuss things like you want to work on them, I just see if going south quick or blowing up. Or it could just drag on, neither of you will be able to move on, and you'll both be hurt more in the long run. Take a bit more time and decide what you really want. Do you want her back?

Ya i think i do. I miss her and like i said i honestly want to be a better bf to her.

Anyways so we worked together again last night and we were being super flirty and playful with one another. Kind of how we were when we first started dating. She kind of inquired about whether or not Ive been with other girls and said she missed me etc. We ate together and talked and i basically said i want her back but getting back together so soon would be a mistake. She said we cant have sex but not in a firm way, more in a "I have to say this" sorta way. Then i walked her to her car and we kissed really passionately and talked about how we miss having sex so its on her mind. I didn't text her or make any other contact with her since.

Gonna see her again tonight. Not sure if i should push/pull a little and semi ignore her or continue to be charming and funny and make her feel wanted and desired. I should probably avoid making her the center of my attention tho right? Again there are plenty of other women to talk to in pretty close quarters and they all will give me attention if i want it. I know patience in this situation is good but its hard, i love her.