So i have known this girl for quite a long time. we started texting for a month ago, and i met at a party for two weeks ago.
At the party we had a conversation which almost lead to a kiss. but i got cockblocked really bad in the last minute. but still in a good way, it could have made her longing after the kiss.

After the party the escalalation really started to take hand. We started texting about all this really cute stuff, and she kept mentioning me as a really nice guy, telling me that she liked me.

But my problem when i eventually fall in love with a girl is that i can maybe be a little to nice; so because we're only texting i have a hard time taking the next step, and we got to a place: where we got me to promise something as awesome as giving her a Crhistmas calender with "love statements" instead of candy.
So everyday i should write a new love statement for her. Just for fun ofcourse, and every time ill gave her one i mentioned that how stupid it sounded, and i wondered where it really cames from, because it was just invented love statements.

THEN we finally had a date arranged, but it is first at the 28 december because none of us really had the time. And that seems to be a really long time not trying conecting really to each other. And at the momment i am trying to keep her liking me just by the messages.

Then for 3 days ago she stopped replying my messages. From that point i thought id better keep my promise with the love statements, and kept giving her them.

Now today she has replied on my text. and she told me that a guy had taken her phone.

This is the point where i think she is beginning to get cold feet, or maybe allready has it. i dont really know how she feels about texting with me anylonger, and the date also. What should i do? Is it possible that i need to lay her on ice? until a few days before the date? how should i proceed out from so far.

Follow the normal procedures. You probably showed too much interests, made yourself too accomodating, and lowered your value. Your best bet is to demonstrate that your life is great with or without her, which means having a life beyond her.

Whatever you do, don't get all AFC and start to show her you're wondering if she's interested or bugging her about how she feels about you. That's just being a needy wimp who needs to know she loves you to feel good about yourself.

You're going to see her in a few days, no need to slobber over her until then. I'd send one text the day of the date. Short and sweet, to the point. Something strong, like "Pick you up at 7. Wear something sexy." End of text.

Even if she flakes, it is not game over. Just means you have more work to do to recover from being too nice, too available, too etc without sufficient escalation.

Dude girls get bored of the texting thing. Let the girl miss you...and you should arrange a face to face meeting the follow week. Call her 2 or 3 times a week at the most and always arrange for a meeting face to face. When you interact with a girl face to face...she will get hooked, because she will connect with you in an emotional level. It is okay to be romantic once she is already into you!

P.S
Try to arrange a date..the two of you without a third wheel!

Conquistador out!

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Thanks for the reply guys! unfortunately the date dindt got anywhere. However she showed up to my new years party even when she said she wouldn't. I told her she could stay, but made it clear that i weren't happy about it.

Before the party i had a conversation with her. She told me the reason why she actually stopped answering me was because a friend told some horrible things about me, and she belives it.