Here's my situation. I met this girl in late august, while she was on break with her BF. We hooked up at a party. She got back with her BF for 2 weeks after we had hooked up. She then dumped him. I know she was going out on dates with other guys after that. The we started talking. We hit it off and went on a few dates. Then we decided to get into a relationship. Everything was going great for a month, when she asks me to her house for a weekend (we're at college). I meet a lot of her extended family. I had already met her parents previously at a dance show she was in, after being in a relationship for about 2 weeks. She seemed to have a great time all weekend. But on the monday after, she tells me that she was really uncomfortable having me meet that much of her family that early on. She then dropped the "I don't know what I want right now" line on me. And told me that she sometimes thinks about her ex when I'm not around. After about of week of being tired of wondering how this was going to go, I broke up with her. I told her that I couldn't be with her until she got her stuff figured out, she said she understood. She said that she was just going to take winter break to figure everything out. I know she likes me, I've talked to her friends, and she talks about how she likes me all the time. Did I fuck up by breaking up with her? She says she still likes me, and understands why I did it. How should I proceed on break? I really want this girl. I want her to miss me, without being a total dick and pushing her away.

Thanks.

EDIT: She also keep initiating conversations with me, so I guess there's still some interest there. I haven't initiated any since I broke up with her a few days ago. She said that she doesn't mind if I text her, that I can text her whenever I want.

I think you did the right thing by being upfront with her and telling her she needs to figure out what she wants. She already knows how you feel about her so if she is still not sure about what she wants then I think you should start approaching other women.

Yeah I told her that I need some space and that if she was that interested in me, she wouldn't be giving me the "I don't know what I want right now" line. I don't want to wait around for her to decide and have her decide to not be with me. I started so well, and then I got comfortable, and I think she lost interest. Oh well, going to take a little time to forget about her, but it's a learning experience. I can't stop the effort it takes to get into a relationship, once I get into one.

i gaurantee that if you hook up with a hotter girl then her interest in you will as if by magic come back

Right now she thinks she has you where she wants you, if you could pull any girl in the world would you take this type of shit? hell no you wouldn't so why should you now

GET GAMING!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with League.

You probably didn't do anything wrong. It's early in the relationship, she broke up with her ex. It's common for thoughts about the past to come back for awhile.

By inviting you to text, she is just trying to keep you in her hip pocket, to make her feel like you are still an option. By texting back, you are just reassuring her there is no need for urgency or for her to worry about you.

If she knows how you feel, keep away, live your life, live it well, date other women, whatever you want to do to keep from doting on her. She is not the end all be all. Know this and live this.

You did the right thing by protecting yourself this early. Had you not done that, it's likely you'd get more attached and this shit could get you hurt much worse. Freeze her out, when you do give in, she will ask why you didn't text. Tell her it's because you like her, but know she needs to figure her own stuff out and she needs to do it on her own, without you mixing it up. Tell her when she has it all figured out and knows for sure what she wants, you'll be happy to talk or text or whatever.

Well she told me today that she had done her thinking, (so much for taking the whole break to figure it out) and she said, "umm I don't think I'm ready for a relationship". So I told her how I felt about the whole fucking situation, felt great. I don't want to die of laughter when she gets back with her ex, so I deleted her off of Facebook. Moving on. I don't deserve being treated like I was, and I now know to not waste my time on girls who are "unsure", Life's too short. The only thing now is, I don't know if I can trust a girl when she says she's over her ex.

I did not read the replies yet I wanted to say you did what was right. The only thing I have to add though is she may not be mature enough yet. I will also be the first to line up in saying this fact sucks as I've had to let a lot of great and fun hot women go separately because of maturity but this sounds lot like a one to two years max relationship to me. Take caution my friend should you get back in, watch how deep you go.

Yeah, two of her roommates texted me and told me that she's being a bitch. That they don't agree with what she's doing, and I really don't deserve to be treated this way. I think bad timing(not quite over ex and parents getting divorced) coupled with me being slightly too "nice" (not as much of a challenge as I was in the beginning) doomed this relationship. I'm going NC and moving on. I know she's PMSing right now, and she is a short-fused bitch that week of the month. If after a while she initiates something, I may entertain the idea of starting at square 1, but idk if it would ever work out after this. There's plenty of other, better girls out there.
You may be on to something here with the maturity part. But at least she's being semi-nice to me during this break-up. I know her ex before me(the one she's not over), got dumped twice in two weeks after he drove up to our school, and took her out to dinner. He's an odd mix, an AFC douche.

Does it sound like I was a rebound? She said I wasn't, but idk, I always had a thought in the back of my head during it all, that I was.

I would agree to the rebound idea man. Either way, just drop her and go game other girls. There are WAY better girls out there than this one

All the photos on facebook that she had added of me, are now gone, so I guess that answers my rebound question. I need to stop thinking about her, as I can guarantee she isn't thinking about me.