I don't know whether to feel sad or what, I just got dumped for the apparent reason that things are going too great. Her dad said something about her having a different boyfriend every Christmas and she made sure I knew that it wasn't like that. then that night she dumps me saying it's going so well and that she's afraid of committing and not being able to make changes to her life such as work. kinda weird cause she couldn't stop kissing and touching me. I could see in her eyes that she was head over heels for me.

I'm not really looking for advice as I know what to do but I figured I'd share this one cause it's a little odd, but I apparently it happens.

Maybe for others who are wondering what is the right thing to do I'll reply with a comment saying the best thing to do with this situation is to simply say okay and let the bird fly. Nothing you say to try to stop or force anything will actually help. In these cases we can only see what happens next because there are other women, but if she just needs space or thinking time, she will come back. Alot of girls try this card to have a logically acceptable breakup to see another man (or woman ) and I don't think that was so with this girl, but this does happen a lot. you just gotta see what happens. She may be long gone for good wanting to chase her dreams and because I care, I will let her do so without trying to stop her. This doesn't mean I don't care about her or that it doesnt hurt because it does, but at some point you have to know these rules:

1) Crying to her and begging her back doesn't work and will push her away

2) getting angry and saying things you don't mean or have pent up will not help

3) trying to force her to stay will only create trouble (possibly legally), and will ensure your relationship is false i she's stupid enough to stay with someone who does that

4) Don't even try gifts and long sweet letters and all....I mean seriously!

5) Sometimes they just need space or time to think...sometimes they do things as a test of congruence (sh!t test)

6) You don't have to go fuck everything out there to show her anything... If you like a girl you can date her, but don't go rubbing it in. girls you win back by rubbing it in blatantly are 9 times outta ten going to be too immature for you.

7) Go hang with friends talk about it occasionally but focus on having a good time in that moment. enjoy their company and if at all possible avoid the heavy parties at first and enjoy some simple things in life like fishing or working out, or just going somewhere to eat and shoot the shit with them.

8 ) It WILL be okay! you're not going to die from it even though it sucks (unless you have a seriously seriously bad health condition which is highly unlikely)

9) They may choose to come back and in many cases they aren't even worth taking back. In the few cases that they are, go for it but judge the situation with self love. is this worth going back for, or is it another heartbreak coming in six months that will be worse than the one already present?


I hope this response helps and the story is one of experience that may just add a pinch of help. Happy Holidays folks!