I dated this woman for about 4 months. We broke up for a couple months and we've been dating again for about the last 2 months. Last week I told her I want to be exclusive. She said she wasn't ready. Her excuse is she had cancer a couple years ago (this is real) and during that time she felt abandoned by everyone in her life; friends, family, boyfriend at the time. She now says she basically has trust issues cause she thinks everyone is going to leave. She says she likes me, but doesn't feel comfortable taking that kind of plunge and opening up.

How legit do you think this is? I'm kind of calling bullshit on this one. Is she stringing me along? My thought is that she doesn't want me as her boyfriend, but she doesn't want me to leave either. She basically wants to keep seeing me, but keep her options open. Honestly, I'm offended. We've known each other for about 9 months. That should be plenty of time to decide whether or not you see yourself with someone exclusively. I'm really leaning towards just cutting her out entirely. Any thoughts or outsider perspective is appreciated. Thanks guys.

Sounds to me like she is being honest with you.

That being said, I'm in agreement that if she's known you for that long and after 4 months does not want to be exclusive that it likely means she is happy with the rules as they are now.

Your call whether to cut her out entirely, but sounds like an open invitation to an open relationship, FWB type of thing. I would use it until you have someone else that you want to be exclusive with.

Try to go out with more girls...and that way you give her time to think. When you have many options...you don't care if one girl says no or needs time, since you are getting action on a regular basis!

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