I met a girl online got her to agree to a date, k-closed. f-closed on the second. Anyways after a couple more dates she announced that she really liked me and didn't want to fuck what we had up.

A couple of weeks went by because we were both busy...exchanging texts/emails etc. Anyways, after not hearing from her for a few days I asked her out and got a very distant "I've got to study today but how about Wednesday night" & so I text her on the Tuesday to confirm the time. At which point I get a message (paraphrased) saying that she's not ready to meet up because she's been through a lot recently - getting kicked out the apartment she shared with her ex and some other pretty heavy shit and she's confused. I tell her I'm going to back off and she obviously has a lot going on in her head and she knows where to contact me. She promptly responds and essentially tells me that she thinks Im hot and she will if she feels ready. I leave it there and haven't contacted her since.

It's now a couple of weeks later, I noticed she's removed her photo from her match account. Just wondering whether I should get back in touch after the new year (we're both heading home for a few weeks) or just leave it and if she gets back in touch she gets back in touch?

Bad case of oneitis I admit...first girl since I split with my ex a year ago I've actually wanted something more than just sex with.

Hmmm, seems to me it's over.

You could initiate contact and say you noticed she dropped out of Match or something and use the conversation to gauge where she is at. I'd keep it very low key and see how receptive to you she is. If you don't get a warm fuzzy, start the process of finding the next girl you don't want to just have sex with.