To catch you up I'd basically split up with an ex 8 months ago, things went messy, I managed to leave things on a goodish note eventually, then I cut contact completely. We are in different cities right now (at two different universities), but our 'homes' are only 5 minutes away.

We split up around 8 months ago, and since then I've tried dating a lot of girls at once and I'm in a semi-serious relationship with one girl right now, but it's just not doing it for me. I've been really busy with my new course and trying to keep my mind off her, but she's the first and last thing I think of every single day without fail. I can't not compare every girl I'm with to her, so they just don't have a chance.

So why bring this up now? My ex had dated a guy since we split up and a mutual friend recently told me that they just broke up last week. I'm wondering if you have any advice about where to go from here, I do want to give it another shot, and at least see if she's in the same place as me or not, hoping it will give me some closure to move on maybe.

I'm visiting a friend at my old university this coming weekend, where she is currently living. I could drop her a text there at some point over the weekend to meet up or I could wait till over the Xmas holidays in 3 weeks or so when we are both back home and suggest meeting up then, go hang out for lunch or something.

I'm wondering how to go about bringing up these unresolved feelings I have for her, and how she feels, i.e. just be friendly and not too overwhelming or just be completely honest and lay it out for her?

Some guidance or at least another prospective would be great, thanks.