Was dating this girl for about the last 3 months, i'm 27 and so is she.

Everything was great the first month or so, we had been introduced through mutual friends at an engagement party. When the marry couple to be was fighting, we ventured off, chatted a little about life. She said she was looking for someone to be with, and saw her friends around her in LTR's and getting married and so-forth. We wound up hanging out the first time some weeks after and hitting it off. Texts and communication were awesome, smileys, hearts, "i miss you"..etc. Sex was ok....(she was chubbier girl turned thin a few years back, she is a HB9 now and i'm sure insecurities factored into the rest of this story)

She went to Vegas towards the end of October with a friend. I let her do her thing and didn't bother her, I had no reasons not to trust her. When she came back, we made plans to meet up. I had gone to her apartment to help her dismantle furniture because she was moving out. Needless to say, her roommate was there and I couldn't get intimate with her. Later that night, went to her parents house (first time) and obviously couldn't get down to business there. Ever since then, I had noticed a decrease in affection with the texts and in overall communication, but i remained positive. We hung out a week later but we did not have sex, her stomach was making noises that i've never heard before. Whenever we would hang out though in general, she just never seemed truly happy.

That week was her birthday, I totally killed it and got some great thoughtful presents and met at her parents house for dinner. A few days later we raged at a bar with her and her closest friends (who all loved me, even the gay ones!!). I got to the hotel early before the party, tried to kiss her and she told me her lips were chapped. I immediately backed off, i told her later that night that i was trying to get a little freaky with her, she said "i didn't even try."

We hung out two weeks later (last time i saw her), we went out and she mentioned she got blackout the other night, i was cool and collective about it but questioned her decision making... and it took a personal toll on her. I didn't even try to get laid that night despite that we made-up and things seemed OK.

Since then again, I've tried to remain positive. She would ALWAYS be the first one to text me in the day, which kinda threw me off when i was questioning myself. Despite that she was the first to text, the conversations would end quick, on her behalf... But i knew it was coming, i did....over thanksgiving she gave me the text "we need to have a little chat." I knew it was coming so i played along. Once we spoke, I didn't have much to say. The first thing she said was, "i think you know where this is going." She said, "my head isn't 100% in the relationship, and its NOT about another guy or anything." My response was ok...I didn't say it was another guy, so why would you mention that? I immediately shifted the focus of the conversation and tried to get some answers as to why she initiated conversations with me everyday, and how long were you feeling like this? She said a few days, and i said just be a decent girl for once and be honest...i saw it coming weeks ago. She didn't have much to say, but was feeling distant a few weeks back but wasn't ready to break up with me yet.

I pretty much ended it on, hope you find what you are looking for and thank you for proving to me that i wasn't crazy, and i knew this was coming. I said later, and she gave me a frustrated "bye." There was no yelling, screaming or arguing. I went into my house, end the relationship on FB and un-friended her.

So why was she texting me FIRST everyday (even up until the breakup) Was i the temporary safety net for another guy? Any chance of getting her back? I've been through this before, and i can implement NC with no problems... i liked this girl because she displayed confidence, independence, and she was HOTT!! We clicked on a lot of levels...but she just never seemed happy when we were actually together with friends...maybe her head wasn't 100% in it?

I have a similar situation of my girl being proactive then suddenly nothing.

It's not a good thing my friend. Looking back in retrospect, I should have initiated the break-up when I was getting the signs of disconnect, lack of consistent communication, and overall lack of interest in the relationship. If I were you, I'd act now...either by communicating your feelings in a way that does not make you come off as AFC, or just by simply ending it politely and expressing that the relationship isn't where you want it to be, and the affection and communication you originally had seems to be deteriorating.