A friend of mine (girl) recently asked me this question, and then I realized, I am in that situation. My current girlfriend, openly admitted to having cheated on all her ex bf´s , it was one of the first things she told me. By cheating I mean kissed other guys, she only had sex with another guy once, and.. I was that other guy.
People tend to judge a lot about our pasts, thats why no one ever wants to divulge it. When I asked her why she had done those stuff, I guess everyone has a story to tell.. she felt dissapointed at her partner, or they didn´t pay much attention to her, made her angry all the time, fights always. When you hear this, well you say: Is the cheating justified? Maybe not, she could have left them, but she didn´t, or she cheated because she was young and well, we simply don´t take relationships seriously at 17-18 do we? When I think of my fears of her cheating on me, I say to myself, I was also a cheating boyfriend with my past ex-gf .. I had sex with approximately 10 different girls on almost 2 years that I was with her. Do I feel like doing it now with my new GF? Not a chance! .. Its been 10 months that I´ve been with my girl now, and by this time I had already constant fights with my ex gf, and with my new girlfriend, I haven´t had any significant fights (one or two maybe), my first cheating was when we celebrated our anniversary ..
Can people change? I feel a change in me at least, I don´t feel the urge or the neccesity to cheat on my now girlfriend, and she even says ¨I even enjoy staying faithful to you¨ ... maybe her confessions of cheating on her ex boyfriends were a sign of respect. I don´t like thinking about this subject.
But, what do you guys think ?

Its tough to say and depends on many factors! In general I would say 90% of women have cheated at one point or another in their life...women unforchantly are not loyal creatures. If a girl has dated 10 guys and cheated once then its safe to say that she is less likely to cheat and if your value is kept high she will most likely never cheat, on the other hand if she has dated 10 guys and cheated on 9 then the likely hood of her cheating on you is much higher!

Women who constantly cheat usually have some kind of psychological problem that they have not yet dealt with. A women who is mentally healthy has the ability to cheat but she is far less likely to put her self in a situation where she will!

Factors to look out for:

How is her relationship with her father? (poor relationship with father often means

poor relationship with men as she gets older, along with low self esteem).

How is her relationship with her mother? (how is her mother as a role model?).
did she have any childhood traumatic childhood experiences? (was she bullied or sexually abused?).

In my opinion these are the major factors in how a women will carry out her relationships with men as an adult...can we change? yes but only if we want to and its not easy! most people are in denial and wont admit they have a problem, they would rather blame their problems on others instead of admitting they are wrong and working on them self's. Im sure you have heard this from a women before "I cheated but it wasn't my fault, my bf was ____" you get the picture?

So can we change? yes. Is it likely? No.

p.s

I want you to think about something.

If a girl cheats on all her past ex's and the reason is because they were all assholes (at least that's what she say's) why then did she stay in these relationships and allow it to get to the point where she would cheat?

A mentally healthy women would not stay in multiple bad relationships and continue to cheat, she would learn from her mistakes and try not to repeat them...

just some food for thought.

The only girl I ever dated that openly admitted to cheating on several previous boyfriends came very, very close to cheating on me before I figured out what was going on. In her case, I think it is simply the way that she handles boredom in relationships. Instead of dumping the guy (me), she found another one, trying to:

a) make me jealous, or
b) have a plan b in case I dumped her.

Turns out b) worked out really well for her.

After that experience, I'd say I have a hard time trusting a girl who admits to having cheated several times. You can make a mistake and learn from it. If you make that mistake more than once, it is a habit.

(BTW, dark one hit the nail on the head about some of the circumstances that lead to such destructive behavior... I felt like he was describing my ex perfectly. Daddy issues, abused in her past, drug problems. Even though she seemed completely healthy by th time I met her, she'd use those excuses as a "reason" for her mistakes.)

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No.
Only exception if it were external factors that caused her to be like that, and those have to be changed permanently.
Behaviour doesn't change (fast).

Edit: People only cheat when they don't feel super in the relationship. In the honeymoon period it would be even more surprising to cheat. Value a relationship as much on the bad times as the good.

I think you are asking the wrong question. The question you should be asking is "why do girls cheat". First, most girls will cheat when they are unsatisfied with their current relationship and are looking for a new one. Girls are very averse to taking risks (biologically, this is because they are ones who raise children). It is socially and emotionally risky to break up with a guy before there's another guy in the picture. This behavior is a fall back to times when women were 100% reliant on men for their survival (not that long ago).

You can't blame women for being women. Women will cheat on you if they are unsatisfied with the relationship. It's part of a healthy female biology and you shouldn't condemn a woman for cheating in previous relationships.

Having said that, some girls will cheat just for the hell of it. For example, "freaks" will cheat on you for the validation. Sex is a form of validation. Also, they love the strong emotions, drama, and attention that results from the cheating. Ho's will cheat on you for money or status. This is why I tell guys to screen their girlfriends for these qualities (see link below). Freaks and Hos do not make good monogamous girlfriends. Screening is a very important part of good relationship management.

-Wolf

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Screening: drama-free-relationships-1-screening-vt124827.html
Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html

-straight from 60yoc....

Girls who have cheated in the past can be good in relationships.

They just need to see that the relationship is worth the effort.

We all should not hold each other's past against each other.

People change.

We all want to be good.

So, yeah! I believe you can still trust a girl ( you will definitely feel if something's wrong, split up before any harm's done!)

Aren't you the guy who was posting a load of stuff about his gf texting other guys about threesomes and meeting up etc...... And she's also told you she's cheated on every guy she's ever been with

I wish i could bet on this at the bookies, i'd be betting a hell of a lot of money that this girl has either cheated, cheating or will at some point in the near future cheat/dump you