I'm going to a music concert this Friday night. I added myself to the attending guest list on facebook and the douchebag I wrote about in my previous threads is going, along with a mutual friend.

I will be going with my GF and probably hang out there with the mutual friend also.

As far as I'm aware douchebag has stopped messaging her... my anger with him has long since dissapeared...almost!

So assuming I am caught in the awkward situation of this dude being introduced to us by the mutual friend, or in the unlikely event he has the balls to come over and try and chat... what is the best way to put this jerk in his place but not look like an asshole?

Thanks

Depends on what kind of relationship your gf still has with him.

A)Is she annoyed whe he comes around?

If yes, tell her that you are going to the bar to get a drink and if she wants to help carry a beer, if she wants something too (easier to come along as finding her in a crowd would be hard...) any excuse is good if she get's away.

B) she still likes him as a friend.
Just be yourself.(ergo;act normal, being to annoyed or something without him causing any serious fuzz is just childish)

Sorry man I didn't really explain their relationship well.

They're friends on facebook, they're not friends in real life. He has a few mutual friends with both of us.

He tried to hit on her in a bar once, got nowhere. He pestered her via Facebook private messages - really creepy sappy AFC kinda stuff.

I thought it had blown over but he saw her out a couple of weeks back and started over messaging again. As far as I'm aware that has stopped.

She acted great and said exactly what you'd want your gal to say to some loser.

But he still irritates the fuck outta me.

At the moment I'm siding with stay calm and show no anger. I'd love to tell him to fuck off etc but probably not wise.

Anyway he doesnt know either of us well enough to come over and try and open the set...plus I don't think he has it in him to do that ha.

But the mutual friend could be a foot in the door for him...

So I just wanna know how best to amog the jerk.

Don't hate the player, hate the game.

Just let it go. The guy made his attempts and failed. It happens. Cute girls get hit on A LOT. If you want a hot girlfriend, then you're going to have to learn to live with it.

If you call this guy out, then it just acknowledges that you consider him a threat. It's a display of low value as it shows a lack of confidence in your relationship. Rise above and remain aloof.

-Wolf

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You do realise that your gf is probably getting hit on constantly by way better guys than this one?

I feel you need to chill out a bit! Your coming off as being very insecure about something that is going to constantly happen unless your girl is the ugly duckling! You need to remain calm unless your girl behaves badly. Or unless the guy is a total jerk and near harasses you both!

If the guy comes over and is perfectly nice and you are a jerk to him then your value goes down. Truth be told...this guy shouldn't even be coming up on your radar. He tried he failed, he tried some more, he failed some more...

Stop feeling threatened by a chump because when someone with skills tries to hit on your girl you will need to not feel threatened about him too!

Get really lovey dovey with your girl in front of him. Get her to look affectionately in your eyes or kiss you lovingly, or touch and grope you.

I know that from personal experience, if I am attracted to a girl and she has a bf, I don't really care what the bf does. But if I can see that the girl is showing him a lot of affection it turns me off to her. Because you'll never win over a girl if she is truly bonded with her bf. So get this douche to see that your girl is only about you, and no one else.

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This.

From my experience most girls love PDA more than us guys. As long as she is receptive, turn on the PDA but kind of tease her with it and really try to seduce her throughout the evening. She will only have eyes for you and that will be pretty obvious to anyone paying attention to her. As an added bonus any chicks who are watching this will also be more attracted to you because they want what they can't have. Knowing (or even seeing this when these chicks are eye-fucking you) will be an added bonus to your confidence in knowing that your girlfriend is your girlfriend for a reason and isn't about to leave you for some AFC.