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Sidnne's answer is spot on here. I can speak from experience, not because I was cheated on, but because I cheated. After that, I took a hard look at myself. Turns out the problem was me, nobody else, and in restrospect, there probably was not a lot my wife ever could have done to stop me. Perhaps had she been a psychologist, maybe I'd have shown symptoms that she'd have picked up on, but in a nutshell, it was my fault I cheated, because of my problems, not my wife's. The same will be true if you are ever cheated on.
People who are in a healthy emotional state will not cheat. They will instead deal with feelings or desires they have in better ways. The best way you can lower the odds of it happening to you is to pick a good one, and there are tips here on what makes a keeper versus one to run from. Once you've picked a good one, keep good honest, open communication, and continue to keep yourself well. Do those things, and it's unlikely to happen to you, and if it does, you can walk away not even feeling bad for the reasons Sidnne mentions.
Thank you for enlightening the situation a bit more, and including some of your own experience as well! In conclusion of what you have said, the only way i can prevent one from cheating is to pick a girl who is most unlikely to cheat? right? and then just be the best man possibly. At least that is what i have taken from what you have said, which have giving me a positive look at my own situation! once again - thank you

Yes, you took my message correctly. A good girl who is emotionally healthy, no red flags, etc. will likely deal with the issues that often go along with cheating in a lot better ways. Chances are women won't cheat unless there are other issues at play, so if you have issues in a relationship, this is also a good reason to communicate and hash them out. If she's a good girl, and you're the man, you have little to worry about.
If you're worried about this, it likely means you're not the man yet. But you are here, which shows you have the desire to improve. Work on yourself, pick a good woman, and life will be good.
In my situation, I picked a good one in terms of her own health, but we had a lopsided relationship. She never criticized me, ever. Even if there were valid criticisms that I should have heard. I basically found out about them after the fact. Inner game is a tough nut to crack, but well worth the effort.