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here is a relationship fact that isn't often expressed.
love is not an absolute.
i'll expand.
you would think that something as BIG, as BASIC, as FUNDAMENTAL as "love" would be a fixed thing. an absolute. defined and static. not dynamic and subjective.
but "love" means different things to different people.
to most men love equals commitment, certainty that your partner will always be there, will always want to be there, etc. essentially, you "love" having her.
to most women love equals the feelings (emotions) that you generate inside her when in your presence. so essentially, she "loves" the way you make her feel.
but what is love?
and how can it be two different things to two different people?
love is an illusion. it is a placeholder. it fills the gaps in those undefined reaches of our souls. it is a cureall for the specter of death. a fix for the existence of aloneness.
i suspect...that really we are all just sharing each other's company more than actually "loving" one another in relationships.
THIS in and of itself, as jaded as it may sound on its face, may be the answer to a successful relationship. the acceptance that love is an etherial take on an arrangement.
be careful out there.
love because you can. love because you want to. don't expect to see your version of it mirrored in other people though.
good to be back, btw.
Do you know about the theory of the love languages? There are several different styles in which people express and receive love. So if you're giving the wrong style to someone, even if you do love them, they may not feel loved. So it's important to talk about what different people experience as loving.
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