my now ex girl friend dumped me on saturday night. we where in our local pub and i aint gona lie i had a shitty day. boring to say the least. we where in our local pub and i spent most of the night sat on my own at the table only leaving when i needed the toilet or a drink. i got accused of watching her or looking at her. even tho i consciously didnt watch her all night am now dumped because of it. what should i do????

You need to give more info.

Where you at the pub with her or alone?

Were you sulking or being miserable?

What is the history between both of you?

we was at the pub with 3 other friends. and no wasnt miserable but i where bored most of the night. and our history has been ok a normal relationship. its so sudden and its over something i dint know i was doing. and its something of nothing am just confused how or why?

it was an average night no different to any other night in the local

i didnt say anything out of order. i didnt follow her around. i spent the whole night sat mostly on my own due the fact her other friends smoke and i dont.

Ok.

I think your best bet is this course of action;

Take time away from her, not for her, but for YOU. If she speaks to you, be civil and nice, but also don't chase her. Do not play any games like making her jealous or show anger, just use this time for self reflection and growth. Have time away from her to think about what you got out of the relationship, what you liked and disliked about her, why you think she broke it off and then to make a difference and act on it.

If you improve yourself, and be happy, it is positive, regardless of wether you both reconcile or you move on.

Once you have been making these changes, maybe excercise, new haircut, new clothes, new hobbies, leaving her alone to think. She will more than likely be interested in you and why you had not been chasing her. If not, see if she will meet you after 3-4 weeks.

Hope it helps, but you have given limited info. Feel free to ask any qu

i would never talk to her again.

(and i am not saying that out of anger)

it's clearly not meant to be.

she has to be harboring an incredibly large amount of resentment to have such an ill-timed and seemingly illogical reaction to you having a bummer of a night and not feeling especially social.

it's quite odd that she didn't even approach you at the time or later to say:

hey, what's up? is everything cool? wanna come do a shot with me? you wanna get out of here and go fuck? baby, is something wrong?

but nothing at all...?

there is A LOT MORE going on here than meets the eye.

you think you had a normal relationship with her and this was one isolated incident.

to her, that night was the straw that broke the camel's back because of a rising tide of resentment and unhappiness in the relationship.

either it's because you totally suck.

or because she is a total bitch.

or because the two of you simply don't work together.

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you've given that exact same answer five times today in five different threads.

word for word.

i suppose the link to your website under each post is just a coincidence.

spamming isn't nice.

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