Hi gents,

Well I have recently come across a new girl. She is one of my best friends close friend ( both girls). Now last thursday we hooked up, things were progressing normally. But we took things really fast after the weekend. She spent the last 4 days asleep at my house. And yesterday after hitting the clubs, she brought up the subject what are we and insisting on it. And so now were exclusively seeing.

This morning i paid no attention to it, but she did seem quite bothered that its moving a little fast. I told her we need to cool it down a little bit. However it seems that things got tainted now. Is there any way for both of us to recover from this, im worried that we might both just drift apart.

PS she just go out of a relationship recently and mentioned that she didn't want to be tied up like that. I explained that with me its different and I cannot take people putting me in a box either.

Things kind of left on an akward stance... We really like each other, but we hit this bump. And im not sure if she is going to freak out. And im not sure why she put pressure on the situation.

Just give her some space. She will start missing you and from there just slow down a bit. Tell her you wanna take things slow and see where it goes instead of putting labels on each other so fast. When she asked you to be exclusive and persisted on it, you should not off agreed but said something like: "Were getting there.." and smile with it.

Good luck on all this!

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Hi,

Thanks for your reply. Im going to try and go down that road, we like each other a lot by the looks of things and this could work out.

This problem is the result of poor leading. Your actions should reflect your intentions. If you didn't want to get super-serious right away, then you shouldn't have let her stay over four days in a row. Furthermore, you shouldn't have promised monogamy so quickly. You just rolled over and stopped resisting any kind of beta-ization. It's natural that she would start to lose attraction for you.

Read this ("relationship rules 3.0" by Tubarao): http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php? ... -Rules-3-0
And this ("Summary of the beta-ization process" by Corvette): http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... 3900599449

In the short-term, you should definitely stop seeing / texting so frequently. Figure out what kind of relationship you want and act accordingly. Don't emotionally invest in her or go out of your way to do nice things for her, unless she's actually earned those privileges by treating you well. In the long-term, learn how not to get yourself into this situation again.

Just my 2 cents.

-Wolf

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