Hi guys,
I came on this forum a few months ago. I hadn't been with anyone for a long time.. and this site, and the community helped me a lot. it helped change my mindset..
for me, going from being single for 7 years to being in a relationship which will potentially lead to marriage is a BIG step change.. now the question:

This is based in a non-western context so please take it as is:
Key facts, we had an arranged introduction..
we hit it off really well..
she lives far from me..
we are thinking of getting married next year (as in have already told parents)

now she has pre-existing male friends.. of course she does.. she is stunning and incredible company...
well she has one particular male friend, he picks her up from work, drops her home etc. this would normally be enough to make me jealous..(but i accepted that this is just what 'friends' do... not that i would lol)
now for her birthday.. he has bought her a NECKLACE..
why the hell would he buy her a necklace?? she says it is innocent, she says they are just friends.. and i believe her..
i believe she is loyal and trustworthy..
but is she an idiot??
Do men ever buy girls who are 'taken'.. necklaces??
I don't see how that could possibly be innocent, and i'm surprised she doesn't see it..
am i over-reacting? Is it just innocent? should i just believe her...
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I have three theories..
one she is playing me for a fool (doubtful, because it would be utterly pointless for her to do so)
two, she has put him in a massive friendzone zonneeeeeee and he just does not see it.. but i don't like that behaviour from my gf either..
three, i'm paranoid and possessive..

i really hope its three so i can just chillax..
thoughts please =)

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dude you need to tell her to cut this "friend" of hers loose. he is clearly in love with her. and she loves the attention. but for his best interest, and hers, (and yours), she needs to let him go. (assuming shes not fucking him already)

if she doesnt, she cares about him more than you and you have your answer.

I'd be worried that this would come across as too needy?

It's fine OP, you're all good. He's so AFC.
No-one buys jewellery for a taken woman unless they are super needy.

Yes, he might be into your girl a little bit, but as a guy with a girlfriend I can say I'm 'into' loads of girls. That doesn't mean I'm going to trying and get with them though.

Don't worry about the necklace.

Maintain the frame and be a cool, relaxed guy. Don't get jealous.

Puazilla nailed it.

He is trying to win her over.... Dont even break a sweat. you are the one at night fucking her... so who cares


But I would have a mindfucking conversation with my girlfriend because of that guy. Just for fun

Something like:

So he is your friend, but you know he is in love with you... but you are with me, arent you taking advantage of him playing, because he is hoping being the nice guy he will leave the friendzone and jump in your pants...

Oh girls.....

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Funny, i had once the same.

My GF suddenly showed a necklace of her "best friend".

I met that guy. He was an AFC. I knew he was into my GF. But I was fucking my GF. So as YOU are fucking YOUR GF. He is not.

He is buying a stupid necklace to try to get her attention.

And then she is even showing it to her BF. To You. "Hey, look what he bought for me".

If your GF talks about it, even shows her his present, you are completely fine.
If she would hide it, it shows that something is wrong.


I never cared a shit about it, you shouldn't either. It was just funny. Laugh with the dude. He's pathetic.

Learn one lesson from it: never do what that dude does.