Hi Guys,

Been with my girl for about 6 months now.

Things have been pretty good so far. Early on I definitely made some beta moves, however after studying up and reading on this website, I've corrected and improved my frame over the course of the past few months.

Her and I get along great...make each other laugh, love being around each other, the sex is hot, etc.

But we have little in terms of shared interests. She works three jobs and is extremely busy, most free days/evenings are spent with me. She is very into cooking and socializing, hanging out with her friends, gossip magazines, etc. But those are about the only real activities she has.

I have quite a few hobbies - I play on an 8 ball and 9 ball pool league, play golf, like hiking, sports, guitar, and am starting to get into mountain biking. None of this interests her. Our taste in music is very different too. She likes pop/indie stuff and I pretty much only listen to country and rock.

Bottom line we don't really share any passions. And she doesn't have the time to really find a new passion with me that we can share.

I mean I know its good to have separate interests and have your own lives to a point, but I feel like if we had a few more things in common it would be awesome.

Any advice?

Much appreciated!

Most girls do not have much in common with a man. Its very rare if you ask me to find a girl who has a lot in common with you interest wise because men interest are just very different from what girls like to do.

What you could do is invite her to pool games and make sure she has a good time doing it. If this fails try something else you like, chances are she just never done it with a fun person.

I know it sucks when your girl does not really like to do what you do, this is why i screen a lot better and do not rush into any relationship anymore. Just take things slow and when she shares common interest you got yourself a winner.

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Thanks for the reply man.

I was thinking that while typing my post last night...most girls don't have much in common with your average guy. Those that do (that are into sports, camping, etc) are rarely single and highly sought after.

Even beyond not having much in common, she doesn't really get along with my friends. Same thing with me and her friends. I guess it isn't really not getting along as it is just being wired differently (most of her friends are quite snotty and pretentious where as mine are more down to earth and chill).

I'm going to stick with it and see how things go. They are going well, don't get me wrong, better than they were a couple months ago. So hopefully they'll continue that way. Still, I probably should have screened better in this instance.

I wouldnt worry about it too much, as long as theres RESPECT for each others interests.

If you tell her you are extremely passionate about something; she should ask about it and show some general interest. works both ways.

Also usually one person will take up the interest that their partner is into. For example if you rock climb twice a week, eventually she may want to join, try it out, see if she likes it etc. maybe she'll hate it and never go again, but again its a question of respect.

My gf and I basically share 0 common interests. she likes girly shit, I like manly shit. she likes pop music and justin bieber, i like rock music and sasha grey.

but at the foundation of our relationship, we get along great, have the same values, similar goals, same cultural background, and understand each other.

who knows tho if over time I will eventually get frustrated that we dont share interests, but for now Id rather it this way. can you imagine if your gf was always with u? tagging along when you do sports, or play music or whatever. it woudl be fucking horrible.

men need their own time alone, bromance etc. same with women. its part of the whole male/female polarity dynamic shit.

Most of the people i know who have had really long relationships share almost no interests. I wouldnt worry about it personaly but if you do worry then try and do something new that you both enjoy.

Having interesting hobbies that you do for yourself is attractive. It show you have a life, it shows that you have other things going on. Its a good thing.

Having lots of hobbies is something all men you strive for.

Hey I have been dating this girl for over a year and really want to go out and Game. This girl is perfect, she is an Engineer, attractive and smart, so why am I so not into it please help me I need advice

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