Hey guys,

Me and my gf had a trip to birmingham for some fun and on our way back we were just talking about what each of us do that is a turn on / good etc. We exchanged a few things but one thing she said that kinda struck me was that she said I would be in control / dominate which was a turn on for her but I would only do it in bed and not any other time. She also said she would prefer it when I do it all the time... so how do I show control within a relationship?

Help is much appreciated!

Regards,

Tubbs

Be the leader and the decision maker. Be the one who plans things. Don't put up with bad behavior from women. Don't show women your insecurities (or just stop being insecure). Own that pussy (read this: http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php? ... ortance-of ).

For example, if you're going out to eat, then be the one to decide where you're going. If you're going to rent a movie, then be the one to pick the movie. If you want her input, then narrow down the choices to two or three things and then let her pick.

-Wolf

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All good advice. Those links have TONS of good info.

always let her have input but the idea of narrowing down the choices, I like.


remember, shes with you now, so whatever she said you should take lightly, don't over correct your behavior, you don't want her to notice that you've changed and you don't want to all of a sudden turn into the controlling dick.

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Wolfwood already covered the audible aspect, I could only add that you should also be dominant in terms of body language and physical contact; not just during secks.

I dated a few girls who liked being hit. I know that sounds disheveling and I can imagine a couple of white knighted AFCs refusing to believe that, but yes, they liked to be abused. Of course I refused to hit them, but I figured out a different solution. In fights I would push them up against a wall, have very aggressive secks, etc.

The point being, these girls didn't literally crave the PAIN of being hurt, they craved the rush of being physically dominated by a guy. The same concept can be applied to your relationship.

So for example, randomly when you're cuddling with your girlfriend, hold her really fucking tight to the point where she feels her body is being suffocated and her bones breaking and then tell her you love her. Or sometimes pick her up without asking and carry her to somewhere else. You get the idea. Literally, physically constrain or control her.

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Interesting read really enjoyed it! In certain extent I think the "I own your pussy line" will work but here where I come from that would def be offensive.

I liked Hakuna's view on this post. I agree with a girl loves to see the power you have physically, my GF at the moment still refers to the way we did it the first time where I picked her up from the couch in my arms and carried her to my bed where I gently laid her down. She loves that!

whomever created the "I own that pussy" line gets a free beer..
it works wonders even over the phone..
(and I am eagerly waiting to test it live tomorrow night)

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Have you tried role playing the controlling/dominant role throughout the day?
Making women call you Daddy and having them do things that you request is one hell of a mental f*ck for her (and an extreme turn on).
Developing this skill takes some work, but it can really add some spice to your relationship.

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I think daddy would be weird. Teacher/student is a true and tried role-play in the bedroom. I guess I could try something like that.

BTW, I will totally confirm my allegiance to "own the pussy".. last night she was basically telling me to fuck my own pussy all the time till I came

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