My girlfriend thinks that she is just another girl to me, she is worried she is not special. I do treat her special, and I am looking to give her a proper answer to why she is.

I have been a bit of a dick and not told her anything about my past. And it's wrong of me. I believed by "playing it cool" I'm making her want me more. It's working, but I have forgotten to take her feelings into consideration. And even though it works when I do not reply, as making her anxious is kind of making her want me more, I feel I've waited enough and should just tell her.

I have NEVER been in a closed relationship, except with her, and she does not know this. I have been with over 20 other girls, and she has been with only me. Would it be good to tell her this? and also, would me telling her about my past make her more comfortable with having sex?

I think you're overthinking a shit test here...

The fact that you are with her in a relationship, and not with any of those other girls makes her not just another girl! Just another girl would've been a one night stand.

Bro you have been with 20 girls, pretty sure you got enough experience to know what would be the best move.

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No dude I don't. This is my first CLOSED relationship. I have never really been a 'boyfriend' before.

But would appreciate comments that would help me move forward. Your comment did nothing.

P1nkstar... do you think I should tell her the truth then? Or tell her she is being stupid for thinking these things?

Did she ask for that? She shit tested you. You just tell her, if she asks again, that you don't just start relationships with random ppl, so she better starts believing she's special

Sort of solved?

I really don't think it's a shit test. Maybe I worded it badly. She doesn't complain or moan. She asked me 'how many girls have you been with?' (straight after she told me she hasn't been with anyone before, she was very shy, and very nervous) I then replied 'Not many' and she obviously didn't believe me.

Second time, she said to me "If you've been with other girls, how do I know I'm just not another one?" Second does sound more of a shit test, but I feel I can give a good reply anyway. I feel a shit test is when you're typical answer will result in a fuck up, like "do you like sex" or something.

This is a relationship that has a lot of commitment, and one we are both, especially her, is taking seriously. Maybe she was just wanted to know, so she feels more comfortable with me or something?

Also, I feel I've been acting too "pick up artisty" (if that's a word). Girls have great intuition and I feel I've been playing game too obviously at times. It's like she knows game! lol (but she definitely doesn't)

but thank you for your input P1nkstar. Appreciate it.

Ok, that's not a shit test.

Be genuine on those moments, tell her you've been with a couple of girls before. (that's not a bad thing)

Don't tell her how many! That's creepy...

And tell her she is special, you've tested her (if you tell her this, she will ask how, be prepared) You know she's a great girl, else you wouldn't go into a relationship with her.

Also, tell her what you like about her, she's being a bit insecure, that verifies the reason that she's not just another one.

have sex!

I've found when a girl says something like that I havnt done a good job of making her feel special. Girls love hearing things like "I was just bragging to my friends about you" "I told my mom about us and she already likes you" There's something about making your relationship PUBLIC and making sure she sees you making it public that solves a lot of the "i think im just another girl" thing. Got a facebook? Make sure you post every now again on there blatantly about her. Make sure she knows she isn't your dirty little secret.