So me and my girlfriend are almost in our third month of our relationship, things were going rough after the third week. For 3 weeks she was really nice and sweet, had a lot of sex and she was perfect! Then out of the blue she told me that she has anger issues and depression.

After she told me this she was acting distance and really bitchy, i failed all shit tests and figured out she was a freak. Had 23 exes, daddy issues, got raped on early age, you know the type!

Now i am at the point where she has 100% control and i am pretty much on a leash, its pathetic. Every-time she acted...like a total bitch i always said why are you being such a bitch to me while all i do is treat you like a princess! I pay for everything as she has 0 money.

Its my first relationship and i don't want to lose this girl even though i get treated like shit! Its the complete opposite of how a healthy relationship should work but i feel like i am the girl this bad boy has played like a pro! Her 23 exes had taught her A LOT! Just when iam about to snap and call it quits she is sweet again and does something i really like such as sleeping over and having dinner with her, but then 2 days later she will be acting aloof again.

She wanted to break-up with me about 2 weeks ago because she was bored in our relationship but i literally begged her to give me another chance which i know is the weakest thing a man can do! But i just need to get this shit right as its kinda true that it was boring because i did not know all the stuff i learned here!

I was a total AFC and not a alpha male who was in charge! Its way to fucking late to get control back over her as she knows she has me and don't want to lose her.

Ive read how to train your girlfriend and the game and david deangelo's ebook. I learned so MUCH from these books and i really wish i could start from day 1 again as i am sure i would be in charge.

But things happen in life for a reason, this was probably to tell me how messed up some things are with girls and relationships and to get me to figure out what i do and don't want in a relationship and i do know all that now so even though iam being whipped by a girl who is 4 years younger then me i learned from it!

When i am around her its going pretty good and she is sometimes submissive but behind her mobile phone she is a very tough little girl.

I don't really need any advice as i know what this would be, just wanted to tell you guys how Furio's relationship is like and that there girls out there who are players!

Most advice would be: man the fuck up! Dump this bitch! Freeze her out, make her jealous, be a better leader, Better sex, no more presents, bad and good behavior but all this will not matter as its way to late and i made ALL the mistaked a real man would not have.

My plan now is to add little by little to get some of the control back and be a lot more fun around her so she misses me instead of me missing her, then when time comes i can freeze her out and do the PUA things on her without risking losing her because she is kinda trying to get rid of me.

Have a good day guys!

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

Not really advice, but a suggestion. Do everything you would want to do, if you wanted HER to break up with YOU!

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She had 23 ex boyfriends. Well it looks like you're not too far from being number 24 on that list.

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She's not a "player," that term implies that someone has conscious control over their actions. Women are oblivious to their manipulation of social dynamics. She's just acting whatever way "feels right," in accord with her surroundings and mentality (continuous stream of beta boyfriends, craves attention, past experiences have created weird complexes in her, etc).

And manning up is not the solution, you need to go no-contact with this girl and cut her off from your life. Like you said, she has occupied the power position of your relationship for far too long, and you've beta back-slided way too far. The very foundation of your relationship is based on various assumptions of you being an AFC, her needing you LESS than you need her, and emotional baggage. It will hold you back and cause you to continuously relapse. The way around a Oneitis is not through it.

As a general rule, it's always energy better spent pursuing a new relationship than trying to fix a damaged one.

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Thanks for the replies!

I learn more and more about this girl everyday! Right now she is acting like a total bitch again on SPAM ( text ) but yet we are going swimming tommorow and i stay over for dinner and sleep with her, offcourse she needed to make some drama so she said: "Why do you want to sleep over?", "So i said cause we both have a day off monday and its fun..." her: "Its not fun to get hit on the face". me: "The sweeter i get the more mean you become!!! Why????" her: "Ok il be quiet! You can sleep home" me: "I will not hit you and i will sleep on my side." her: "You can sleep in my brothers room." me: What do you think..., "i will not hit you i promise,l if i do il go home!" her: "I hope so".

End of story.

Ive read freaks need drama in their life or some sort of bullshit so i always try to be nice and just try to get what i want but WHY THE FUCK does she needs this drama!!! and want to fight with me over nothing!!!!

It hurts me so much! As i am looking forward to things and out of the blue she will start drama without me doing anything. It hurts trying so hard but being treated like a dog! When i asked why are you like this? She said: Why do i always have to explain things? I am getting tired of it!

At every question or remark i send her over SPAM i get a very short answer such as "ok." or: "yup". Never a funny response or a long response.

Also when i call her honey or cutie she will never replie or call me cutie or honey.

BUT she does has these depression periods so i was thinking she might had this going on for last week or so but then on her twitter she was sending funny responses back to this guy she cams and chats with.

I am so close to just call her up and start saying the lowest shit to her that will really hurt her but damn guys i get treated like a piece of shit while all i do is treat her with respect and so much love! I just want this to work and make her love me!

Also she has changed her badoo relationships status to single again and visited my badoo profile so i got an message saying she visited me. The balls on this girl!!! And the pathetic person i became 0 respect and on a leash with no power.

Is her chatting and flirting with people and changing her relationship status to single on a dating website behavior i should accept from my girl? She also has many guy friends on face book who post shit to her about how hot she is.

People on here say, don't act jealous as this will show insecurity and i kinda think she does not cheat on me but just stay with texting and flirting online as she is pretty much on her room all day.

Thx for reading and happy love!

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

This is not going to healthy for you at all, don't stress yourself out trying to make it work.

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It is easy for everybody here to say "move on" and "get a new relationship". You are not the one getting hurt by someone you love.
First, you want to take control. I've learned that in order to take control of this bitchy behavior, you gotta make her feel bad for doing it. You punish her mind, her own self-believe system(Im such a bad person for X, I have to change it). And you gotta do this while still showing interest. Remember, to be interested is not the same as needing.
You gotta be totally honest to yourself first. YOU are getting emotional pain.
You must confront her, and be mature about it. Tell her what you think about her (for example "you are beautiful"), and then you make her feel bad with herself by saying what you feel ("every time you say X, it breaks my heart"). Obviously, say everything with your own words, but do remember, women like it hot and cold, not warm. So be sure about what you say, its different to say "I THINK you are beautiful" to "You ARE beautiful".
If she does not react to this, she's just a twisted person and you should move on.
My rule is "Move on AFTER you do what you have to do".
And talk to her in person, no texting allowed for things like this.
A relationship is basically good communication. If you know what she wants, you can give it to her, and we are all happy.

If anyone wants to add or correct anything, feel free to do it.
Hope it helps.

Dude you are such a pussy. Get a grip, wtf is this, I'm disgusted. Dump her ass, how can you still be with this dumb bitch. After 3 months into the relationship, she's acting like this? Wtf come on man, where's your manhood and respect? Have respect for yourself, what would your father think about you being treated like this by some skank? Exactly. Dump her ass, you don't need her even if you get control over her, she's still not worth it. Damnit, I hate when guys are such a disgrace to manhood!

http://therawness.com/reader-letters-1-part-1/

If you have time ,try to read the whole article,it describes very well your situation, Codipendent(you) - Narcissist(girlfriend).
Thanks Ryan Oceros for the link

Thanks guys for all the responses and great link Izumi! Ive read the first part and this is exactly true!

She just broke up with me even though i slept over at her house yesterday. However she ignored me all the time and just sat there texting on her phone and everytime i said something she snapped at me and was irritated. She was like this for the last 2 weeks since i begged her to give me another chance.

I knew this was coming and should off broke up with her but at the other hand i got no regrets, i learned so much from this! Now i just forget about her and move on with my life, i will find a normal girl one day! No doubt! Then i will be the alpha male and not be the AFC.

Have a good day guys!

Furio out

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