TL;DR
-I'm 19 and am the best freshmen at my small college, every sorority girl wants to #@#! me and I have an awesome reputation. (I just threw the best party my school has seen in 20 years)
-Girlfriend is the most loyal girl at my college and is HB8.5-9
-Girlfriend does what I want to do 90% of the time- sexually too
-No mutual hobbies besides movies and beliefs
-kinda boring, doesn't have fun at parties but goes to make me happy
-Girlfriend loves me a lot, ideally she wants to stay with for the rest of her life
- I could see myself spending the rest of my life with her, but it wouldn't be an exciting life unless I made it one
-We've been dating for 7 months and I wont see her for 3 months this summer
-I love her, I want her to be the mother of my kids and my wife, she's so friendly and agreeable.
-I feel a desire to conquer single life-hunt for cougars with my friends, make out with 5 different girls in one night, etc..






Okay so the above summarizes where i'm at essentially. I go to a small, nerdy public school with about 6,000 undergraduate and only 3 sororities and 5 fraternities. I am known as the hottest/best freshmen on campus and can pretty much get any girl that I want. However, i've been dating this girl named Stefanie for 7 months now. She's perfect in a relationship sort of way. She is very understanding, non-dramatic, EXTREMELY loyal and trustworthy, has a high sex drive and does what I want to do most of the time. She wants to spend the rest of her life with me. She truly loves me.

I'm not sure if it's all the PUA stuff i've read since i've been 13 years old or if it's a lack of romance, but I feel a desire to be single and enjoy college life. However, I will miss her quite a bit and truly care for her if I break up with her. Without me she doesn't have much at this college; she's broke too and has a small social circle- whereas I'm the social chair for my fraternity and know everyone.

I probably won't find another girl as agreeable as her at my college and will miss her.

Should I be single or not? Has anyone been in this situation? I love my girlfriend and dont want to hurt her and will truly miss her. At the same time I feel like I owe it to myself to be single; hook up with random girls spend my summer nights hunting girls with my friends, etc..

Open Relationship = best of both worlds (however, it's probably too late to implement this without a lot of drama). It's something to think about, however.

-Wolf

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Yeah the open relationship is too late to work with. Honestly, I wouldn't want an open relationship anyways. There's already too much trust, love and monogamy to even consider talking about that.

bump

College is four years. That's four years of uninhibited fun.

Even if you broke up with this girl halfway through college, that's still two years to go buck wild.

But something tells me you're not satisfied with this girl. Otherwise you wouldn't be here asking this question.

My advice is to have fun with her. You're 19, which is young and if you'll pardon me for saying, you don't know shit yet. That's why you go to college: to find out what you want.

Ditch this idea of settling down with her and having a family and just aim to have fun with her. When she stops being fun, you know what to do.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Well I'll be graduating 2 years early and I won't see her for 3 months this summer. But I will be getting my masters here, so graduating early doesn't change the whole 4 years thing too much

When you're watching a good movie or a sport, do you stop and think: I wonder what other fun stuff is going on right now?

You don't, because you're enjoying yourself in that moment. The event in particular is worthy of your undivided attention.

Apply that to this girl. If you're having fun with her, have more of it. If you keep wondering whether the grass is greener and there are more fun girls out there, it's indicative of a larger problem.

You've shared a thousand private, secret, wonderful moments with this girl. No one here can tell you whether she's worth keeping around because we don't know her. If she's worth being away from for three months, keep her. Otherwise don't.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

really you are the only person that can answer this question for yourself, you are either satisfied with your relationship or you are not

if you can come onto an internet forum and some random guy can just say, YA!! SPLIT UP WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND!! GO CHASE ASS!! and that is actually enough for you to break up with your girlfriend

then obviously your girlfriend is not important to you, and you are not ready for a relationship

figure out what your goals are for yourself and try to achieve them, if your girlfriend is your goal and she is what you want, then stay with her, if chasing ass around campus is your goal, then go chase ass around campus, if you really have to ask then chances are you don't have a clear idea of who you are and what you want, figure that out for yourself and find your own identity

Solid advice, thanks guys