I am dating and living with an HB7. We went on our day one, I rushed a kiss close and left her wanting more. We started going on dates and talking more and more. She became my girlfriend after she found out we where both seeing other people. She realized she wanted the relationship and said she wanted to be exclusive. I was really digging her, the sex was crazy and consistent and I felt a connection. She liked me for me, and saw through my game. Some might think this means it was weak, this would be a fair statement but it worked on countless other girls yet felt like somewhat of a front. We dated for around 8 months and moved in together. Then got another apartment together. It has been almost 2 years now. I find myself missing life as a pickup artist, not just a pickup artist, a closer. Since dating, game has become easy. I am not a cheater, so I never acted on it, just perfected my game and it became second nature. On the other hand, sometimes I feel like she is the one (Cheesy I know, but its true). When times are going good, they are really good. I feel like being with her recharges me and I can take on the world. When we fight, I feel the opposite. I feel like she is holding me back. Like I should leave her, move out and going back to slaying HBs. Pickup teaches that there is no such thing as "the one"...If there is, she would be the one. When we fight, I give her the cold shoulder. This makes her cry. Then I talk to her and we make up. (aaahhh the good old push pull). Lately, ive been feeling Beta. Like I am fighting to keep her happy. I get paranoid and think shes cheating on me, but I dont ask her about it and once again give her the cold shoulder. Now shes in bed, watching a movie and Im on line writing this short novel. What do you guys think? Keep it alive, or cut my losses? Any suggestions? Its tough because both desires/feelings are so powerful yet polar opposites.

If you feel paranoid it means you are the one with less power.And by your writing you dont want to losse her despite of what you wrote. You like her you are conformed. nothing bad with that

I would advice doing some new hobby, gym for example

Flirt with other girls.

Go to the club with friends.

boost that self esteem. When you realize you have options she will natural pick it up that you have other female in your area

Set up dates... try and spice your life a bit with her. go to new places. do something new instead of the same day boring life, its really easy to fall for that one when you guys are living in the same house and dont see 3 days a week.

if she isnt receptive to your new experiments I would suggest looking for new things

And dont worry if she will cheat or not, there is nothing you can do about it so no point worrying take a breath and work on yourself.

Ps: You cant always gave her the cold shoulder... when she is right you dont have to be a caveman all the time.

hope it helped

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

I agree... that push pull you have is her constantly testing your frame. I mean are you starting the fights? I say go out and flirt... you'll know what you want when the oppurtunity to be permiscuase presents itself

You are absolutely right! We are living a boring routine. Go to work, come home, sit on the couch and watch TV/Movie, go out for dinner/make dinner, go to bed (sometimes with sexy time) and do it all over again. I usually work every other weekend but when I dont, we like to go on dates. My life has become work and relationship. I need some me time too! I used to go to the gym, spent alot of time hanging out with friends and lived an active life when I was single. I always had a hobby. That part of my life disappeared with the relationship. I was ok with it at first and we both wanted to see each other all the time. Im 22 and dont know if I want this forever. Shes met my family and they love her and even joked about kids!!! I feel like now is the time to chose between settling down with her or going out there and enjoying the single life. I do care about her. I love her and dont want to hurt her. In the mean time, I am going to make some time. Pickup was so much easier. No feelings, just fun.