I've been dating a HB9 for three months now and everything is great. Lots of sex, we constantly tease each other ect.

She told me right from the start that she's not the soppy sweet comment type of girl. She finds it a turn off. I took note of this and made sure to sparingly verbalise my interest.

I've worked out that while she hates to verbalise her affection she isn't afraid to show affection with her actions. Lots of cuddles before and after sex, holding hands and kissing ect.

She took me out to a nice restaurant for my birthday 3 weeks into dating and bought me presents. She admitted after the dinner that she was completely out of her comfort zone taking a guy out so soon. Basically it was a massive IOI and she knew it.

She told me at the start that the last few guys she dated got dumped at the 3 month mark as they became over baring and dominant. Funny thing is, I can tell where those guys went wrong! I'm nearly positive that they began to get insecure and needy due to her perceived coldness.

She's not a big texter (neither am I) so that suits me but I worked out that the other dudes couldn't deal with that and got clingy.


I had a few failed relationships before this where I was using and reading PUA material but this is the first one where I have been fully aware of the do's and don'ts of a non needy relationship.

Previously I would of failed many of her shit tests and become needy but past experiences are really good to learn from. In fact a few bad experiences are probably a good thing. With each relationship I have improved and been a more attractive partner. This has been reflected in the quality of girls I have been dating.

Basically I'm pleased for myself as I can see real progress in my ability to stay non needy and and non-aft.

Fingers crossed the next three months can be a drama free and successful as the last

I'm happy for your success.

Good and bad things can really be equally good on the long run if you learn from the bad experiences.

But I would not take the things she says she likes on face value. What a woman says she wants and what she really wants are usually 2 different things.

Keep up the good work!

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