So for anyone who has followed a few of my posts. Ex gf, seemed really nice, decieved everyone. Cheated on me. Lied lied lied, then i found out she "fumbled around" in her own words with some other guy (im guessing close to when i asked her out, while we were exclusive) and went down on some girl a few days after I asked her out.

The place we live is pretty small, everyone knows everyone, and she never told me the guys name who she "fumbled around with" it kinda drives me nuts that It could be someone i know as she did tell me the name of the last guy she cheated on me with (who was the first i found out about because people had seen her getting with him.

But yeah. I havn't seen/spoken to her in for weeks now, but it bugs my mind everyday, makes me feel sick. I think she slept with this guy, even though she said she fumbled around with him because she just loves cock, she hates using protection and even since iv heard shes turned into a bike.

But as i said, it messes my mind up. We kept going round in circles and it was driving her nuts because i kept finding out new things about what she had done, like the fumbling around and the going down, and the found out she actually cheated on me, right directly above my me while i was asleep.

Anyway. Should I just forget about it, or demand for her to tell me who this other bloke is. I feel like a right joke walking round not knowing ...... and it bugs me that I saw the signs and decided to trust her when i asked her.

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Law of Attraction

You gotta stop dwelling on her! Is she really worth this stress?! I understand that's it's hard to forget when she is in such close proximity to you but she's really not worth one thought!

Go out and have fun, meet some new girls that are not in her social group and I guarrantee that you will forget about her very quickly once you meet a new lady who blows your mind.

Anytime you get negative thoughts just sit down take a deep breath and say "know what? She's not worth it"

Yeah I do need to stop dwelling on her. It just plays my mind. And what really takes the piss is that I do all this PU stuff. Learnt body language, NLP etc...

And I picked up that she was lying/hiding things, but she seemed like a really nice girl when i met her, and everyone thought she was a really nice girl. So that made me think... maybe thats just how she is.

If my mate told me what I figured out, then I would have said, shes cheated on you. But I thought I had trust issues myself so I thought i would trust her. And man, was i wrong...

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Law of Attraction

the reason why this bugs you so much is because you are needy, you are needy towards this girl, you want her for yourself and no one else, you need her specifically, you have to fill something missing in yourself with her, you invest too much of yourself into other people expecting they reciprocate the investment to you, you have to get over this over investment and meet more women, and have sex with more women, stop putting your heart out to every girl who is in front of you, then clinging to the first sign of interest without seriously browsing the market for what is available to you

stop it, stop being needy

she doesn't own you, you don't own her, it is not a big deal, you are both young, she got with a bunch of guys, does that mean she hates you?, no, does that mean you are less of a man?, no, it just sort of means you were dupped into investing into one girl and not pursuing others when you could have been, and why didn't you?, because you were needy, and figured she would return your investment back, but alot of young girls are not that mature at 18 years old

stop trying to force a relationship so that you can have one girl all to yourself, let her be the one that wants to capture you, just sleep with who ever you want, and stop caring so much about other peoples problems, go after girls you like because you like them, not because they will be your property

if you set forth an agreement with someone that you wish to only see them exclusively then you both have agreed to what your expectations are in reguards to the relationship between both of you, if someone disrespects the agreement, they dis-respect you as a bi-product, why would you dwell on a person like that?

respect yourself, don't worry about these things, she is not your problem anymore, and the more you cling to the idea of her, the worse things will get, she is just a cheater, it has nothing to do with you, she would just as likely cheat on those guys she got with while seeing you as she would you, if given a reverse roll she would probably cheat on those guys with you, it has very little to do with you, or them, she just is too immature to be tied down and enjoys sex, she is a nomal 18 year old person

if you want to pursue young girls you have to be mature enough to realize this, not very many 18 year old girls are at a point in their lives where they care about settling down, they just want to get laid and have fun (especially girls into the party scene)