Hello Forum, I'll start by explaining my general mindset over things:

I am 24 years old, Have been into PUA for a while now, changed my life, was a geek gamer, now i have finished my BA degree, and participating in local fitness championships, my business life has just started officially, and i decided that i can't really go on with random ONS, or FB's.

I have been into horrible LTR's, but that did not phase me out or limit my beliefs in finding a girl that i would actually have fun/be happy with long term.

I have no idea if this is called Maturing up or whatever, i just want a girl who would make my life better, and definetely not worse.

I am going to talk about an issue i am having recently with a girl, would really be happy for "General" advise, and not specifically about the girl i am going to talk about below.

Being recently out of a "not so good" relationship, i have met a girl who is 18 years old, who i found cute, we both found interest towards each other, she also have been recently out of a relationship (her first and only) with a guy who was a total chode, and she just eventually got bored and dropped him, she's into sports and takes it seriously, which i respect the most, she was informed by a mutual friend of ours that i would only be friends with her "For now" so we can get to know each other, and not just blindly jumping into a relationship, we've been talking and seeing each other 1 or sometimes 2 times a week, 2 weeks into that, i found out thru our mutual friend that she's worried that things are going "Too fast", and she's afraid to tell me, i confronted her about that, because i was on the same page.

I also thought things were going too fast, so i made it clear that we're both on the same page, yet I had to back off a little, it's my nature when a girl does 1 step backwards i do 2 back, i can't be chasing a girl who does not show interest towards me.

So after the "Confrontation" she began telling me that i have "Changed", and i am treating her cold sometimes, i just pass it over and tell her nothing is wrong, i am just busy.

Yesterday i found out that she said that i am becoming very distant and boring after my "Change".

Now this is where i want advise or at least have a discussion about this...

I can't push more into this relationship if she's not pushing either, and when i am slightly distant, she thinks that's boring.

P.S: in general, we've met each other approximatly 1 month and a half ago.

Thanks for reading this far

Interesting..

It seems there is some problem with exactly what you both want. Simply put in order for a relationship ( in any form) to work. You both need to be on the same page.. we all know this.. however it's hard to see sometimes when inside of the lust.

Clearly in what you're writing it seems your not.

I can tell you obviously like this girl, but there is a few ingredients missing to make this function, well. - 1 month into a girl if there is a problem i'd just bail.. let's be honest here.

I remember being 24 and at that age I certainly wouldn't have bothered with an LTR of some 18 year old.. they have waaaaayyyyy too much growing ahead. If your just looking for a ONS or FB then fine..

But advice wise, cut your losses.. it's already failing. She's not ready.

Thank you for the great reply, truly an eye opener, specially from someone who's older than me, which is appreciated.

I do like the girl, but i can't have a relationship yet, until i see enough interest from her side, i've learned my lessons in my previous LTR's when i went into a relationship a bit "too" early.

I have to think about girls who are 18 not being ready, it rings many bells.

Your main problem is that the girl is 18. You can't really start thinking about a LTR with a female unless shes older, 22-24 AT LEAST. If you try to enter a LTR with someone that young you are taking a huge risk. It's not so much that the two of you aren't on the same page, it's that the two of you have different maturity levels. She is at the age where she will start to want to see what's available and experience new things. Things that include different types of men, different types of relationships, etc. Now, my advice would be to scratch this idea of being with her, or turn her into an FB or have an open relationship. But, you want to be with her, so to answer your question you are coming off too strong. The two of you have been talking for over a month. You need to realize that rushing things will only push her away. She meant a lot when she said that you "changed." You should read between the lines, moreso that she meant that the social dynamic between the two of you has changed. You need to slow down, show her who big poppa is and that you can control yourself. Don't enter the relationship telling yourself "I want her to be my girl." Enter it thinking "I'm going to be with her, I'm going to fuck her, it's just a matter of time." That type of self-assurance will begin to express itself extrovertedly because you will begin to chill. You will know that you have the girl already, and that any pre-emptive moves you make will mess it up. Update and let us know how things are going.

@ Goodname, I totally agree about being with someone who's 22+, thanks for the advise.

Update.

A dumbbell fell on my phone, and i had no phone screen for 3 days, and later i got it fixed, apparently when it was broken she gave me a call when i was asleep, and i by mistake gave her a busy tone.

Called her a few days ago, talked a few minutes and she mentioned that she's sorry and asked if i am pissed because she could not call me back for 3 days straight after my last call, because she was busy at her aunts house or something, and i just told her not really, why should i be pissed ? bla bla bla.

Next day her friend tells me that she's mad about me giving her a busy tone on the call that day, and now she wants to avoid me (even thought i have told her that my damn phone screen is broken earlier).

This is some mad child's play, being mad over such things is not something i am fond of.

Yesterday was the following texting convo:

Me: You're weird.
Her: WHY?
Me: You could've sent a txt when you could not call, i just remembered.
Her: I did not have phone credits
Me: Well even if you did it would be useless, since you have fish memory I'll refresh it by reminding you i had my phone screen broken so i could not see who calls me, and i just fixed it, SUPER wink
Her: Haha see, that's why i did not send you a txt i knew you could not read it
Me: That's it, i am filling my divorce papers
Her: Hahahahah whyyyy ???
Me: It's ok, it's me, we can still be friends
Her: What ??? what its u ? i dont understand ??
Me: haha you're such a dork, what are you up to tomorrow?
(20 minutes later)
Me: You're being weird again
Her (from another phone number, apparently she had no credits): hey.. We are friends and we were friends, i thought we're on the same page??? and am not being weird or else, and if there is something u wanna tell me tell it now without making me the weird one, it's (hername).


So she did not even get my jokes about the divorce thing, and she took this as a big deal while i was only kidding around, here i basically lost hope.

so i just sent her: I doubt we're on the same page now, we'll talk this over when i get home, tell me when you're back P.S: I was joking in texts.

then again i changed my mind

Me: Actually, forget it, we'll talk when we meet up later, i am going to be late, cya


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I guess i am going to drop her, can't really see this going anywhere, each time i do or not do something to her, am pictured as the one who's chasing her, even when i am having fun and just spitting out random blabber.

I agree with above. She's 18. In that party/getting to know herself mode. I just dated an 18yo. (im 22) and she cheated on me. Now for LTR I want someone with self respect who knows what they are after.

Just make sure you know what her intentions are.

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Thanks, getting such good wishes from the magical pony is all what i need for the relationship you just mentioned that does not actually exist, just reminding you in case you have not actually read past the intro