and I agree... Maybe this is what she is doing... But I totally surprised her with an opposite personality trait( doing what she least expected me to do)...

So i regained some power, fclosed her... etc... But I think she's just confusing my niceness for a weakness..

Basically, I've given her the ultimatum, that she can only come back into my life if she can make a happy and positive impact on it(subliminal communication saying, if your compliance goes back high..) but I have had a major think about this one... I am going to do a total hard next on her from my part... this will savage any left attraction as waiting on her like a hopefully puppy is just wrong... I will just game my other fb's and orbiters...

thoughts?,

Iplayer

Mindfucking a girl for 2.5 years = stupid as hell. I would say walk away, you will never-ever in my opinion get a decent relationship now. And if things would get shacky again in the future it will explode hard as trust will become an issue again ...

Mack my girlfriend came over today and once again AFC'd i blacked out we were kissing and i just couldnt bring myself to make a move! she asked me what was bothering me and i always said nothing...nothing but she could tell something was up in the end she had to leave for work so we never spoke about it then before she left at the door she keot asking and i didnt say anything then we decided to meet tomorrow night again and then we had the best sexiest kiss ive ever had with her in the doorway her hands were all over me i had my hands down her jeans on her ass it was like we were about to get it on it got real good but she had to leave!! i fucking blew it but tomorrow is round 2. do you think if she asks me what was wrong with me yesterday should i talk about it with her or should i not and just try and get it going with her? she is a virgin and i dont wanna fuck anything up thats why it makes it so hard! help

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Iplayer im no mac, i dont even kno if he cares if i answer this but ive got insight on your situation because this is what happened to me, me being the chick youre dealing with. i heavent read the very long post you wrote but the rest i did. shes realized your game tactics and now will play them for the worse, shes realized and now feels like shes been used and toyed with and she hates it because she trusted you, so whats next? its revenge time shes gonna toy with you, shes gonna dlv you, shes gonna make you her bitch, my suggestion to you is moving on dont wait around for shit this girl is brand new, and dont lose your self respect if she mistreats you

Hey Iplayer....

I think you guys are way past ultimatums. Making them is a waste of your time because she's onto you and your game. Trust me when I tell you its hard to go back and regain that momentum with the same girl. She isn't the same person; her experience with you taught her to be more cautious, less giving...


Does that mean she's ruined? Maybe for you. I'm willing to bet she's in "wait and see" mode right now because of your abrupt about-face behavior. She is waiting to see if it's going to bust like a soap bubble once you get your way. Giving her a hard next will just prove her correct; that you haven't changed or learned anything.


As for her compliance going back on high? I honestly don't think its going to happen.

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Ok. I have been dating this girl for a couple of months. Everything was going really good. We had been seeing each other a couple times a week and texting each other throughout the day every day. I really like this girl and from the talks we have had it sounded like she was into me more than I was into her.

So here is her situation. She is a very busy chick, shes in medical school and she works when shes not in school so I have been splitting her little bit of free time with her friends which isnt a big deal to me right now. But with that said she had always made time to talk to me and see me during the first couple months.

So we went out last sunday and had a great time and it felt like we were getting really close.... Well the next day comes around and she doesnt reply to my text all day... no big deal, shes busy. Well we kinda played text tag pretty much that whole week. She just seemed like a different person, she went from texting me like 40 times a day to only once or twice. When i asked her whats wrong she just tells me she has a lot going on... So I kinda backed off and left her alone for the weekend. So I texted her this morning to see If she wanted to go out sometime this week and she didnt reply to me. It kinda bothered me at this point so I asked her why she is ignoring me all of a sudden... Then she replies and tells me she has a lot going on again... So I replied right away and told her to just let me know when she has free time and that I will leave her alone for a while so she can focus on school.

So at the moment Im not sure what I should do with this. Like i said I REALLY like this girl and I was sure this was headed for a ltr before this... But now im not sure whats going on.
I guess I wanna know what I should do next? Im thinking maybe she just aint into me anymore but I find it hard to believe she would just all of a sudden change her mind overnight like that. And how bad did I mess up with the texting?

Ill take any help and advice from anyone. Thanks!

Hi Mack,
a few weeks ago , i posted a thread about my gf who was a model and we were trying the long distance thing and have been dating for a year and a half . Its been 2 months but we both said that we would be loyal to eachtother . She has a lot of red flags , issues with guilt etc. We got into an argument becasue she was jealous that i was going out and last week she took her status off that we were in a relationship . We havent spoken in a week . I was so good to her and treated her so well . I got suspicious and snooped on her email and found out that she was sending naked pictures of herself to her ex that used to abuse her. What is the best way to handle this as i cannot be with someone i dont trust . Do i tell her that i snooped ? Or do i just tell her that its over? She is obviously insecure and desparate and i am scared to be with someone that has these tendencies!

Sorry to everybody who didn't get a response.

I hope you find the advice you are looking for.

I'm going to ask this thread to be closed for the time being because my life has had some crazy twists and turns and I have zero time.

Take care.
Mack

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