Update guys! She talked to me on text and said

''Hey i just looked at our mail, really sweet the card u send! I have to thank you a lot from my mother, she thinks it's really sweet!''

Then we kind of talked i asked how her mom was doing and stuff, and i apologized for the message i send yesterday, i said:

''I was only thinking of us and not about you and your mom and school and stuff, the timing was wrong and maybe i should have formulated my words different but i was very upset and frustrated at the time because of other things (poker)''

note: i play poker for a living at the moment and it can be very frustrating

She said ''Yea i really didn't like that because i had other stuff to think about so i felt really bad when you said that but sweet that you admit it!'' ''So are we still gonna hang out today?''

Anyway nothing much interesting going on now she asked me to come with her to Amsterdam tonight (she's going with the 2 friends (the gay guy and the girl) but i said i didn't want to interfere in their ''group''. (because the other 2 don't want me to come and they don't want other people joining in their group..)

I basically said no because then i am going to feel very uncomfortable the whole evening because i know their friends don't want me, and their going to a place that only plays shit dutch music and i hate that so yea, instead now i might go out with my friends!

Whether you went or not is completely up to you, but I really hope you rewarded her for displaying good behavior (i.e. for inviting you). Rewarding good behavior is a really important part of solid relationship management.

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Hmm, no i didn't really do that, i did read your post about bad behavior but didn't think of it this time..

Could you maybe give some examples on how to reward good behavior (like inviting me) on text message?

Just wait and do it in person. Texting should really only be used for setting up logistics (i.e. where and when you're hanging out next). Mention that you thought it was really cool that she invited you along with her friends and that she is a really awesome girlfriend. Then just be really affectionate.

It just wont be as effective if you try this via text.

-Wolf

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You should go and get on her friends' good side because they're going to be with her for a long time. Be sweet to them, kill them with kindness .

And for rewarding good behavior

for example, she shares her feelings with you about you so you reply with a reward "it's so cute when you express your feelings to me" now she feels good about herself because you complimented her and showed that you really loved what she said so now she'll be more open about giving you that sort of good behavior. Sorry if I'm not clear but I just wanted to give an example