This is not so much pick-up related but some very serious shit. It's not like she has a cold or a flu. She's been having a low fever for a month now. Headaches, probelms with concentrating, dizziness, and an everlasting fatigue. Doctor suspects something is screwed up with her thyroid gland. She's been through blood investigation and two hormones associated with her thyroid gland were slightly high. She's having ultrasound and got an appointment for endocrinology soon but things have gotten real bad in the last few days.

Oh sorry, one thing you should know is that we live together. Now back to the story.

I've been out drinking with my friend and I thank God I can bear alcohol pretty well. The two of us had drunk 2 bottles of wine, and then suddenly I got a message from my gf to go home. I knew something was bad....she wouldn't just message me at 1:30 a.m. for no actual reason. I rush home, like really... I almost threw up. Then I got home and see her crying and hyperventillating on the bed. I asked her what was wrong and she told me she started crying for no reason at all and it freaked her out. Well this freaked me out too. I got scared to death.

Adding to this, her mother had a history of thyroid gland cancer at the age of 22. My girlfriend is turning 20 in April.

Now this whole shit has been fucking with my mind for a month. Okay, we can't have sex because she would most likely suffocate from hyperventillation, I have to do the housework when she's feeling bad whatever... but this is NOT what really concerns me. She's also been so kind to give me hand jobs regularly eventhough she's in this condition, I haven't even asked for it.

What the real problem is, that I'm starting to break down mentally. I just can't stand watching her suffer while I can't do anything about it. This state of incapacity is driving me nuts.

The thing we're living together is good on one hand because I can look after her, on the other hand, however, I must stand my ground, not breaking down, and just watch her suffer, and comfort her.

So why am I writing this thread? Really...in hope of that someone has been in an at least somewhat similar situation, and can give me some advice how could I take this without losing my mind. The thing is, pick-up taught me how to get over girls. So I don't mind a break-up if a relationship doesn't work. But this works and because of this, just the thought of losing her like this sends my mind into a deep hole of fear, and horror. Of course I try to get those thoughts out of my head. Things aren't that bad. Even if it's something serious, it has been caught early. But still... these are very hard times, most probably the worst shit I've been through my life so far.

Any advice is greatly appreciated, and thank you for your time to read this through.

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thyroid cancer is very treatable.

they will remove it and she can take the hormones and be better again.

stick with her and be solid for her if you love the girl.

what's the other option?

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Thanks very much guys. TonyKing, your insight was very useful. She does not take any medication yet, because we don't yet know what exactly is her disease. Problems with the thyroid gland affect the whole body. So the symptoms can be very various both in manner and strength I guess. So far this panic-attack was the worst one.

And Mack, I know I don't have any other options. Of course I'll stick with her. Only the biggest asshole in the world would run away from a situation like this.

Thanks guys, I really appreciate this.

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This is a time in your life where you have to grow up and be a man. You have to be strong for her. You might have to change somethings around but it can't be as bad as what she's going through. There's not much that you can really do. Just hang in there for her and keep both your heads up. You can do it. Times will get better and she will see what a wonderful guy you were to help her through this. This could really strengthen your relationship. Right now its your time to fulfill your role in it and be the man she needs.