I have been out of the game for a while. Ive been dating the same girl for 2 years. But lately its been pretty shitty. We've been fighting. New years was awful and I was gonna break it off but we still had a week to spend with eachother before we went back to school. So I decided if we were happy at the end of that week then we will decide if we stay together. Needless to say, had an amazing week. Went snowboarding and lots of cool shit. Its been a week after. I blacked out at a kegger and texted her some shitty things like sayin its "over" and "youre just everyones gf tn" I dont even know what that means. And I have no insecurities about my relationship. But the next morning when I apologized she said she needs a couple of days, she needs a break. My fraternity threw an awesome party last night, and some girl started hitting on me hard. HB9. So we danced and she started kissing me. I feel a little shitty about it. BUT I want my gf back and I refuse to contact her first. So do you guys have advice on how to make it work?

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Dude-you messed up:you contact her first.Simple!Cut the alpha shit(as most guys would advice you to remain alpha).This isn't the moment to play alpha.You said you apologized-cool!

It's only natural that she's gonna want to preserve some sort of dignity by requesting space/break.She's not doing or saying it because she wishes to bang other guys.She's telling you about a break to somewhat teach you a lesson,that you can't be playing her like this and expect her to just jump bacc in your arms.So she has to play it aloof and a bit uninterested in you.

Best thing for you to do is remain calm and polite.Still contact her(since you're the one who fucked up)but without talking about LTR and sorries.Just let her know you're still interested by contacting her(whether it's about nothing).When it all dies down(few days),y'all will be back into the swing of things(LTR mode).

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Ups didnt read the txt its over.

K loc is right.

But I wouldnt contact her.

She said she want a break then respect that.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

You need to get your drinking under control as well as your other anger issues.
Hard to comeback after sending a text like that. There's unwritten rule if you've been drinking don't send texts, emails or call anybody because you'll end up saying something you'll regret.

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Hey Snake Doctor,it is the wrong move for the original poster to give her space at this moment by not contacting her.If a girl genuinely said she wanted space,then give it to her.But she did NOT really mean that she wanted space.It was said out of emotions,and out of trying to look strong and assertive.This is not the time to be giving he break when she wasn't the one who was wrong.To pretend as though he doesn't give a shit will only drive her into another guys' arms,after she realizes he doesn't give a shit about a break.This is no time for him to be alpha,aloof nor dominant.This is time for him to act as though he's wrong and keep contacting her.

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Whatever you do, under no circumstances tell her you kissed another girl.

QUestion: does she need a break because of the txt you sent or maybe because things were shitty before and you had been fighting, new years was awful, etc and that, combined with the txt, well... you get the point?

My advice would be different depending on your answer.

And wtf does "you're just everyone's gf tn" even mean? Are tn her initials? How drunk were you dude?

Good point Rich.But I think it was shitty prior to New Years(according to him).

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You're everyone's girlfriend tonight? I don't know lol but this chick shouldn't be so sensitive for that

After reading your post, you are right, he was the one that messed up... so she cleary deserves him chasing her a bit.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

I appreciate the advice boys. I ended up getting her back, she seems calmed down about the whole thing. I decided that I do need to get my drinking under control. Thanks gentlemen.

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Cool it turned out to be the right thing to go after her. It was really obvious that it's you who need to go after her.