Yeah I live with her which makes things a little more complicated! She is in college and as of late she has been talking about transferring to another college because she does not like what she is taking...I am encouraging her to go to a university about an hour away...not because I want to break up but because I want to see what will happen if we dont live together. She doesnt want to move away from me but I told her I would come see her on the weekends ect ect....Im done school and working so for me it shouldnt be a problem.

Now I might regret this because it is nice coming home to someone at the end of the say but it could be the best thing for us...perhaps make our relationship stronger or perhaps we will grow apart who knows?

I think my main problem is just that I went from never being in a serious relationship, partying all the time, living with 3 other single dudes who lived the same life style, to meeting my gf, moving in with her after a year and now after 3 1/2 years we are talking about marriage!!!! and its starting to really freak me out! I see girls I slept with in the past and think "hmmm those were good times", or I start talking to a hb 9 or 10 and start thinking "hmmm I could prob take her home tonight if I wanted to".

He hit the nail right on the ( you live with her ) Go out enjoy life spend more time with friends change like these guys are saying stop having a routine you two go away for the weekend get some spark back. How do you think people have been in a realtionship for 50 odd years cope you will get these doubts if you fight this one it'll creep back up it always will no matter how much you love her. Just ask yourself how much do you want this. And if you did really love her you wouldn't make her suffer like this you need to make your mind up so you can help her.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

I've been seeing my current girlfriend for close to a year and things haven't exactly been perfect but our relationship has been quite stable. Anyway, for about a month now I have been texting and talking to my girlfriend's sister without my girlfriend knowing, and her sister hasn't told her about how we talk either. We started talking on facebook, and she gave me her number without me even asking, and we started texting eachother about meeting up to smoke weed together. She said that if anyone asks she will just say that I was helping me pick out a present for her sister (my girlfriend).

I said that sounds like fun and I tried to play it cool by telling her that I actually still did have to pick out a present for her and that maybe we can smoke and go shopping for a present and she said that sounds like fun. So we went through with our plan and it went really well. Now where do I go from here? I know she thinks I'm cute and likes my personality, but I don't know if she likes me enough to go any further than just hanging out with smoking weed together on a friendly basis. She has already shown that she is willing to go behind her sisters back and keep things from her, so I take that as a pretty good sign that there is some potential here.

Also, my girlfriend is leaving to study abroad for 3.5 months tomorrow, which will give me and her sister plenty of time to hang out without any interference. What do you think is my best course of action? I feel like I need to keep letting her sister know I enjoy being around her and that I'm still interested in hanging out when we get a chance. But I don't want to come on too strong and scare her off either. Help!

Research suggests that those who live with each other prior to marriage are far more likely to divorce. I'd dig up the research (and should know it as a couples and marriage counselor in training) but quite honestly, I'm just too lazy.

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/200 ... arch_N.htm

http://health.howstuffworks.com/relatio ... rriage.htm