I get insecure sometimes. This girl and I were dating for about 1 month and a half. She was a virgin and so was I.

We were both going to wait and lose our virginities together.

Me being the dumbass that I am, got this crazy notion that she wanted a player and didn't want to wait. I stopped treating her like a gf and starting acting too "cool".

Fuck...

Is there any advice for NOT doing this? lol

advice on how to not act like a player?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Idk, maybe act more like a secure, alpha male boyfriend?

Alright, so you're both probably young. You've only been seeing her one month, just try being yourself.

Inexperienced people are going to be awkward about relationships, that's the way it is. Remember she's a virgin too. There's nothing to be intimidated by. You don't have some expectation to live up to. She's not some insecure club girl who's been with 30 guys and wants Mr risky "cool" Alpha man.

She probably wants a relaxed, fun boyfriend. Relax. Make jokes. Enjoy.

Wow, dude these posts about being an "Alpha" is really pissing me the fuck off. WHAT DOES BEING A PLAYER HAVE TO DO WITH BEING INSECURE? I'm sorry buddy but shes your GIRLFRIEND shes not a bar-slut to just run game through man. The most important thing you could to for her is treat her with respect, but also be firm that you have needs and expectations. The most important thing you could have done with her to get to the point of having sex with her was to say your things physically, people don't understand that it's only UNCOOL when you VERBALLY say AFC shit. But you can also show her affection through physical contact man, thats all that matters.

Early on I mad this mistake! its a common thing...I always tell guys that its easy to pick women up but it keeping them thats the hard part.

After a months or two in the relationship the PUA stuff has got to stop! your no longer trying to pick the girl up you already have her....its now more about being able to read women's emotions and react to them, its about being "alpha" yes but not like you think...alpha isnt being "cool" its being calm when she freaks out, its standing up for your self when you dont agree with her, its being comfortable with your self and your decisions.

What women want in the bar: The cool guy who looks fun and makes them feel "butter flys", the guy who everyone want to be.

What women want in a relationship: The calm guy who doesnt have to raise his voice to get the his point across, who stands up to her without being a dick or drama queen, and a guy who has passion in his job and every day life.

Always be your self! even if that mean you love watching star wars, playing world of war craft, and work at burger king....but own it! take pride in it! and let her know you are who you are and if she doesnt like it then she can walk....be fun and gental, but strong when you need to be! become great in bed! if you can get her off shes not going any were! lol